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valerio_79She lived with us for 56 years. She raised me and my siblings without pay. I was 11, a typical American kid, before I realized who she was. Alex Tizon passed away in March. He was a Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist and the author of Big Little Man:…
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Henri LefèvreShe lived with us for 56 years. She raised me and my siblings without pay. I was 11, a typical American kid, before I realized who she was. Alex Tizon passed away in March. He was a Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist and the author of Big Little Man:…
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Slavery has a long history on the islands.
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as long as there are people even poorer. The pool is deep.
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not grasping that the deal was for life.
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“I don’t want her,”
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allowed to bring his family and one domestic
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He told her that as soon as he and Mom got on their feet, they’d give her an “allowance.” Lola could send money to her parents, to all her relations in the village. Her parents lived in a hut with a dirt floor. Lola could build them a concrete house, could change their lives forever. Imagine.
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In many ways she was more of a parent to me than either my mother or my father. Hers was the first face I saw in the morning and the last one I saw at night. As a baby, I uttered Lola’s name (which I first pronounced “Oh-ah”) long before I learned to say “Mom” or “Dad.” As a toddler, I refused to go to sleep unless Lola was holding me, or at least nearby.
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Lola never got
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It confused me: My parents were good to my siblings and me, and we loved them. But they’d be affectionate to us kids one moment and vile to Lola the next
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, they treated her worse but took pains to conceal it.
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A relative
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Cooking was Lola’s only eloquence. I could tell by what she served whether she was merely feeding us or saying she loved us.
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Whether we deserved to be accepted.
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losing her would have been devastating.
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home
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elling stories about Dad, sometimes laughing wickedly, other times working themselves into a fury over his transgression
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stolen the kids from her, and she made Lola pay for it.
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She was ashamed to return
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She had no contacts in America, and no facility for getting around. Phones puzzled her. Mechanical things—ATMs, intercoms, vending machines, anything with a keyboard—made her panic. Fast-talking people left her speechless, and her own broken English did the same to them. She couldn’t make an appointment, arrange a trip, fill out a form, or order a meal without help.
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mes.
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Loving my mother required that kind of mental surgery.
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If she wanted to make dinner, let her. Thank her and do the dishes.
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She’d had none of the self-serving ambition that drives most of us
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You must keep those beneath you in their place at all times, for their own good and the good of the household. They might cry and complain, but their souls will thank you. They will love you for helping them be what God intended.
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Patricia MatosLola
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Today even the poor can have utusans or katulongs (“helpers”) or kasambahays (“domestics”), as long as there are people even poorer. -
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Wessel van RensburgFor months @TheAtlantic colleagues have talked about this story with reverence & fierce pride Read it. You will too. https://t.co/S6DnAW87ba
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Ostii AnandaShe lived with us for 56 years. She raised me and my siblings without pay. I was 11, a typical American kid, before I realized who she was. Alex Tizon passed away in March. He was a Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist and the author of Big Little Man:…
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17 May 17
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Molly MyersThis story is pretty remarkable. Can't remember the last time I read something written with such grace. https://t.co/1o30EvGkjZ
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PogieLet me be the latest to say: this is the most remarkable thing you'll read this week
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Kassandra BoydWhat an intense personal brave story on so many levels ... https://t.co/frGpwBJean
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Dana HuffThis story is pretty remarkable. Can't remember the last time I read something written with such grace. https://t.co/1o30EvGkjZ
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Jane FranklinThe @TheAtlantic cover story has totally floored me. Read it: A story of slavery in modern America https://t.co/989JgraySw
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Cooking was Lola’s only eloquence. I could tell by what she served whether she was merely feeding us or saying she loved us.
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Sean Cannon"he ashes filled a black plastic box about the size of a toaster. It weighed three and a half pounds. I put it in a canvas tote bag and packed it in my suitcase this past July for the transpacific flight to Manila. From there I would travel by car to a rural village. When I arrived, I would hand over all that was left of the woman who had spent 56 years as a slave in my family’s household.
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Her name was Eudocia Tomas Pulido. We called her Lola. She was 4 foot 11, with mocha-brown skin and almond eyes that I can still see looking into mine—my first memory. She was 18 years old when my grandfather gave her to my mother as a gift, and when my family moved to the United States, we brought her with us. No other word but slave encompassed the life she lived. Her days began before everyone else woke and ended after we went to bed. She prepared three meals a day, cleaned the house, waited on my parents, and took care of my four siblings and me. My parents never paid her, and they scolded her constantly. She wasn’t kept in leg irons, but she might as well have been. " -
Md. Nazrul IslamShe lived with us for 56 years. She raised me and my siblings without pay. I was 11, a typical American kid, before I realized who she was. Alex Tizon passed away in March. He was a Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist and the author of Big Little Man:…
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Jordan GoldmanShe lived with us for 56 years. She raised me and my siblings without pay. I was 11, a typical American kid, before I realized who she was. Alex Tizon passed away in March. He was a Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist and the author of Big Little Man:…
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educationfairbdShe lived with us for 56 years. She raised me and my siblings without pay. I was 11, a typical American kid, before I realized who she was. Alex Tizon passed away in March. He was a Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist and the author of Big Little Man:…
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Ryan JohnsonShe lived with us for 56 years. She raised me and my siblings without pay. I was 11, a typical American kid, before I realized who she was. Alex Tizon passed away in March. He was a Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist and the author of Big Little Man:…
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travisjamisonMy Family’s Slave - Long but really a fantastic read. https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/06/lolas-story/524490/ https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/06/lolas-story/524490/?utm_source=atlfb
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Robert BestShe lived with us for 56 years. She raised me and my siblings without pay. I was 11, a typical American kid, before I realized who she was. Alex Tizon passed away in March. He was a Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist and the author of Big Little Man:…
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