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  • there is a new study by computer scientists at Columbia University and the French National Institute that has found that 59 percent of links shared on social media have never actually been clicked, meaning that most people who share news on social media aren’t actually reading it first, and that’ll probably apply to this article as well.
  • People are more willing to share an article than read it. This is typical of modern information consumption. People form an opinion based on a summary, or a summary of summaries, without making the effort to go deeper.”
  • don’t share things you haven’t read. Being informed is being responsible.

  • They may be right for another time or situation, but right now,

  • the depth and complexity and ugliness and danger of sin in professing Christians is either minimized—since we are already justified—or psychologized as a symptom of woundedness rather than corruption.
  • What Owen offers is not quick relief, but long-term, deep growth in grace that can make strong, healthy trees where there was once a fragile sapling.

  • The chance of a rebound relationship having long-term potential is slim.
  • Let’s start with my own experience. As a newly divorced woman with two school age children, I fell headlong into a rebound relationship with unrealistic expectations
  • While most rebound relationships don’t do any permanent harm, they can postpone the recovery process and don’t allow a person time to consider their contribution to their divorce

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  • signs that can let you know if you are simply in love with being coupled once again -- or, if your feelings are the real thing.
  • Perceiving Perfection
  • idealizing the new partner is a sign of a rebound relationship

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  • 1. Defining a Rebound Relationship:

    A rebound relationship is one that occurs shortly after the break-up of a significant love relationship. If you are in a relationship but have distanced yourself emotionally from your relationship partner, you may begin a rebound relationship before you even leave the relationship you are in. If you move quickly from a long lasting relationship into another relationship then you are probably in a “rebound relationship."

  • 2. Rebound Relationships Serve a Purpose:
  • a misguided attempt to move on with our lives.

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  • you will learn nothing from the last broken relationship because of your unwillingness to learn from the break up instead of immediately moving on to another relationship.
  • Not dealing with our contribution to a failed marriage only means taking negative aspects of our personality into a new relationship.
  • The person who jumps from the “fire into the frying pan,” is taking the easy way out. And, the rebound relationship will suffer and so will anyone who becomes involved with a person on the rebound.

  • Your divorce is over, or at least you want it to be. Strangely, you find yourself drawn to one particular person. More quickly than you ever thought possible, you find yourself tumbling into a blissful, sensual feast of delights with a new lover. “He treats me like a queen.” She’s so relaxed and so FUN.” “It’s like he’s everything my Ex wasn’t.” “She really gets me.”

     

    Yes, friend, you’re there. You have wandered into Rebound Land.

     

    Unlike many others, I have a high opinion of rebound relationships. I think they’re an important part of the healing process. Nearly everyone who emerges from divorce does so with nagging doubts about whether he or she is attractive enough, sexy enough, or charming enough to find a life mate. And there’s nothing like a good ole’ steamy rebound relationship to remind you that you’ve still got it, that you can indeed bring pleasure to another. So enjoy. Revel in this new and thrilling intimacy.

     

    Just please, please, please, don’t confuse it with love.

  • Most people emerge from divorce with the boundaries lowered. They don’t just reach out to others. They LUNGE for help, and their judgment gets clouded about which relationships are likely to have the most staying power. And again, that’s part of the recovery process.

  • Divorce can be a shock to the system to go from having a spouse — even one who hasn’t really been there for you — to truly being alone.
  • if you want to get over someone who left you feeling hurt, you go out and find someone new to replace them. This is a simple form of distraction that numbs you
  • divorce is a very traumatic and life-changing experience. You will typically be left in a very emotionally fragile state, which can lead you to make… irrational decisions.

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  • The rebounder is at risk of attaching too quickly to the wrong person, and those dating a rebounder are subject to wandering into the line of fire of scatter-shot devotion.
Jul 12, 16

Alastair Roberts began a helpful series on the eternal subordination of the son controversy.
The most recent eruption of the eternal subordination of the Son controversy began with a couple of provocative posts by Liam Goligher, pastor of Tenth Presbyterian Church, Philadelphia, over on Aimee Byrd's Housewife Theologian blog.

  • Picking up after yourself is a sign of respect for those who live among you. Not doing so is a blatant sign of immaturity which indicates you simply do not understand this. No one wants to see hairs in a sink, step on toenail clippings or find food, utensils, blood, body parts or schmegma in the bathroom. If people can figure out what you’ve eaten for breakfast based on the remains left on the kitchen counter, you are being rude.
  • Put stuff away and get rid of your own mess. Common courtesy, that’s all.

  • Every parent wants to be helpful to their children – that’s natural. However, when you do for them what they can do for themselves, you are over-functioning. It can contribute to your adult child under-functioning, “learning to be helpless,” which impedes their ability to move out and make their own way. And it can happen naturally—you clean up, do the laundry, and pay the bills, just like you always did. Only now, your child is an adult, and could (and should) be doing these things himself—right? Staying in this pattern can leave your child in a state of permanent adolescence, ready to “let Mom ot Dad do it” while he goes about his business. And probably your adult child means no harm by any of this—he’s just behaving the way he always did, because nothing has changed.
    • Over functioning for your child can be difficult to give up because it can be an automatic response, and also might give you that warm feeling of being “helpful” to your child. But when your adult child acts helpless or resists managing her own functioning—and as a result you feel like maybe you “should” be doing more for her—keep in mind the true meaning of the word “helpful.”  

       
         
      • Is doing for your child what they can do themselves really helpful?
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      • When you think you’re being helpful, are you really showing your kids how “real life” works?
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      • What is your motivation for helping your kids – is it in your or in their best interests?  
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      • Are you giving in to your kids’ demands out of guilt or fatigue, or because you want them to like you or not bug you—or because you want to keep the peace?
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      Once in a while, doing things for those reasons is fine, but when it becomes part of your pattern with your adult child it ceases to be fine. However well-meaning, it’s never in your child’s best interest if you’re taking away their self-sufficiency or pride of accomplishment by doing too much for them.

  • If your child is being rude, disrespectful and acting entitled, you do have a choice in how to handle the behavior. Remember, you are responsible for the kind of relationship you develop with your adult child. If you don’t want to be treated disrespectfully, respectfully tell him that. Let him know what you need and what you will and will not stand for.

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  • What’s the golden rule of living with an adult child in the home? Clarify your expectations. This requires honest communication. Represent yourself honestly and openly as a parent.
  • Related: Having trouble getting through to your child?
  • Some kids don’t feel like they’re guests in their parents’ home, and that’s often where the problems start. They may have a sense of entitlement about what you should do for them and what they deserve.

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  • how you can manage your adult children at home effectively—and how you’ll know when it’s time for them to leave.
  • kids are coming home—or have never left in the first place—because they really can’t make it out there on their own. For one reason or another, they haven’t developed the maturity to launch successfully.
  • It takes a lot of pressure off their shoulders because Mom and Dad are there to cook and clean and pay the bills.

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  • How can parents help adult children without enabling them?
  • 1. The end-goal remains the same
  • The Bible charges parents with certain objectives, and these don't change just because your child grows up: we are to help our children become followers of Christ, godly men and women. (Malachi 2:15 and Ephesians 6:4)

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  • The PoodLL filter allows you to put widgets such as stopwatches and flashcards into HTML areas. It is a pre-requisite plugin for the PoodLL Repository, Poodll Online Assignment and Poodll Recording Question types.

  • Hewlett-Packard is a leading global technology services provider delivering business solutions to its clients. The Customer Support and Service business delivers support to our consumers both in warranty and post warranty. We do this via contractual services through delivering compelling support, service & solution offerings so that our customers are receiving value through their relationship with HP at home, at work or on the go. Our vast network allows us multiple opportunities for us to innovate, invest and to continuously improve the HP Print and Personal Systems experience.

  • leading global technology services provider
  • consumers

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  • Import entire Microsoft Word 2010
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  • PasteSpecial button for Atto

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  • DRM restrictions that Amazon places on their books
  • Delete .cplim from the cache.
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