Imagine that you’re looking at your company-issued smartphone and you notice an e-mail from LinkedIn: “These companies are looking for candidates like you!” You aren’t necessarily searching for a job, but you’re always open to opportunities, so out of curiosity, you click on the link. A few minutes later your boss appears at your desk. “We’ve noticed that you’re spending more time on LinkedIn lately, so I wanted to talk with you about your career and whether you’re happy here,” she says. Uh-oh.
Go read the whole article and ask yourself a question. If we already know that most people leave jobs because of their manager, not necessarily the company, wouldn't all the time and money be better spent training managers in how to effectively manage?
I mean seriously, if the situation above actually happened to me, I'd be about 1000% more likely to leave, not less, because my manager felt the need to spy on me and take something completely out of context. Nope, not someone I want to work for.
When Meg was 12, her mother, Annie, found herself unable to look at her. Seeing her daughter made Annie feel unsettled, at times almost angry. At first, she couldn’t figure out why.<br /><br />“And then, Meg turned 13 and suddenly, everything slid into place for me,” Annie says.<br /><br />“I found myself thinking, ‘She’s so tiny. She is so little.’ And I realised I was actually talking about myself, not her.<br /><br />“It felt like something just broke. It was something big and ugly, and it just broke.”<br /><br />Annie was 13 in 1987 when an Anglican priest began sexually abusing her, over a period of eight to 10 months. Seeing her daughter turn the same age was a trigger that not only bring back memories of the abuse, but that also helped her to comprehend just how small and innocent she would have been.<br /><br />He was in his mid 30s, and used Annie’s vulnerability after the acrimonious divorce of her parents and his knowledge that she had been sexually abused by a family member to his advantage.<br />Annie, who was abused for many years as a child from 1979 onwards by a priest. This photo is thought to have been taken in 1978 when the victim was five<br />Facebook<br />Twitter<br />Pinterest<br />Annie, who was abused for many years as a child from 1979 onwards by a priest. This photo is thought to have been taken in 1978 when the victim was five<br /><br />Annie’s experience of cover-ups, betrayal and being failed by those who should have protected her has become all too familiar in such cases. But it is the experience of her family members she wants to highlight. They are the secondary victims, whose stories are often lost.<br /><br />Annie and her family believe abuse pervades the lives of secondary victims but support for them is haphazard and scarce. They hope that by sharing their experiences, religious and other institutions will do more to recognise and address the impact of abuse beyond the primary victim.<br /><br />Meg said at first she was unsure why her mother had begun to treat her differently. She did not know the extent of her mother’s abuse at the time.<br /><br />“I guess it was always obvious that something had happened to Mum, because sometimes she would cry or blank out but I didn’t know exactly what she was upset about,” Meg, now 14, says.<br /><br />“But when I first turned 13 that’s kind of when I knew something more was going on. For a while though, I thought I’d just done something wrong, I thought I’d upset Mum in some way and that’s why she couldn’t really talk to me any more.”
I've often been an advocate for finding resources for not just survivors of child abuse, but also their significant others, as often the effects of the abuse and the effects of trying to heal from that abuse impacts that relationship directly. Maybe it's because I don't have children than the need for resources for the children of survivors going through the healing process is also important, but clearly, it is.
What can we do to provide resources of any kid for the families of survivors?
Despite their inherent instinct to help each other, many firefighters and first responders feel there is still a vivid stigma that surrounds seeking professional help, specifically from a counselor. Hodgens explains that when he first started coming to FoF, he was “going through some really dark times, some really hard situations in life that I needed something other than my own self to get through it.”<br /><br />He recalls seeing other individuals come in for a FoF event and initially walk out because “it brings back too many memories.” The guilt of receiving more than they give is also a tough one to swallow, especially for people whose whole careers are built on putting themselves in danger to help others.
This article came to my attention because on of the former firefighters quoted in the article actually lived down the street from us when I was a kid in NYC. His kids and I grew up together, and what he's doing is pretty cool.
But that's not why I'm sharing it here. I'm sharing it here because of that passage I quoted above. I think the reasons for not getting help when dealing with trauma that prevent firefighters from getting help, are the same reasons that many people don't get help.
Getting help means that I am weak - WRONG!
I don't want to be a burden to someone else, I should take care of myself - WRONG!
I don't deserve help if I can't get through this -WRONG!
I've heard variations on these themes so many times, and all they do is prevent people from getting better. How is that anything but wrong?
As IBM's Kuhn explained in a follow-up interview, these medical records can be leveraged for a wide variety of nefarious purposes. In some cases, it's about stealing a person's identity and billing them for a surgery or a prescription, and in others it's about opening a new line of credit. Security researcher Avi Rubin told Fast Company in an recent interview that he suspects hacked medical records are often routinely used for blackmail and extortion.<br /><br />Moreover, important information on the patient's medical record will often be deleted, like an allergy to penicillin, or new entries added. In some cases, it's intentional. But it's more often a by-product of the theft. For this reason, the World Privacy Forum issued a lengthy report that calls it "the crime that can kill you."
The security in place for medical records is not up to snuff, and it's become a target not just because of the information that can be gleaned from those records, but because it's also an easy target. We've spent a lot of time thinking about how easy access to electronic medical records could help in an emergency, and it could. But, we've not spent enough time making sure they are only accessible to people who should have access to them.
We have to do better.
But a college education is not about job training—sorry, but it’s true. I’ve talked about the difference between college education and workforce development before—so let me just add one thought. How many jobs are there today that didn’t even exist 10 years ago? How do you train for a job that doesn’t exist?
Someone should tell hiring managers that a college degree isn't workforce training. Most sure seem to think that's exactly what it's for.
And while we're at it, why is a college degree so damn expensive if it's not really preparing anyone for a professional career?
This all seems like a market that is ripe for change.
I know a lot of people are upset about this, but for everyone who seems to think that what Colin Kaepernick did was disrespectful to the US, maybe they should stop and think about what the US stands for.
The freedom to not stand for the anthem, as well as the freedom to think he's an ass for doing what he did. It all stems from the same freedoms that we enjoy as Americans.
So, dislike it all you want, but appreciate the fact that he has the freedom to make his own decisions, and to say what he wants, the same way we all do.
Because your "likes" place content into your connections' LinkedIn streams, you should think of it more like a "share" button. Whether intended or not, each "like" is a message that you believe this content will be of interest to others in your professional network.
The advice in the article really applies to all social media where people you work with, or might potentially want to work with, can see what you're sharing. I'm not going to say you shouldn't have some fun on social media, it helps make you seem like more of a human being when you do, but think about what you decide to follow or like, and whether you want to explain it to your boss, or in a job interview.
Apple released an update to iOS 9 on Thursday—iOS 9.3.5—that patches multiple critical zero-day vulnerabilities that have been shown to already have been deployed, allegedly by governments to target activists and dissidents, according to a report from Citizen Lab and Lookout Security. Apple turned around an update within 10 days from when the company received Citizen Lab’s initial report. The update is recommended immediately for all iOS 9 devices
So yeah, you should probably go ahead and do this.
"A few months ago we put out the call to our community asking what they wish had happened in the wake of their abuse.
We read each email and felt the pain, the anger, the frustration, the sadness. The loss. We decided to use their words to help parents and other adults understand what a vital role they can play in a child’s ability to heal after sexual abuse.
Many parents think the worst case scenario is their child disclosing the fact that they’ve been the victim of sexual abuse.
The worst case scenario is your child is abused, and they never tell you."
This is powerful stuff. Not only the original story that inspired this project, but also the resulting responses. So many survivors have told me over the years about the people who didn't believe them, and the people who have shunned them for telling the truth about what happened to them, and it's awful every single time I read it.
"Making fun of the Internet of Things has become a sort of national pastime, made possible by a laundry list of companies jumping into the space without the remotest idea what they're actually doing. When said companies aren't busy promoting some of the dumbest ideas imaginable, they're making it abundantly clear that the security of their "smart," connected products is absolutely nowhere to be found. And while this mockery is well-deserved, it's decidedly less funny once you realize these companies are introducing thousands of new attack vectors in every home and business network the world over.
Overshadowed by the lulz is the width and depth of incompetence on display. Thermostats that fail to heat your home. Door locks that don't protect you. Refrigerators that leak Gmail credentials. Children's toys that listen to your kids' prattle, then (poorly) secure said prattle in the cloud. Cars that could, potentially, result in your death. The list goes on and on, and it grows exponentially by the week.
The latest gift of the Internet of Things industry, revealed last week by security researchers at Bitdefender, is smart electrical sockets that can be hacked to hand over e-mail credentials, create a botnet, or (potentially) burn your house down by firing up connected appliances. The devices are sold as an amazing new tool to help create a connected home, allowing users to manage any device plugged into them via a smartphone and/or the internet. The problem, as usual, is an (unspecified) company that treated security as an afterthought."
In short, the connected home that allows you to unlock your doors, or turn out your lights using your smartphone, when it's not secured, means that just about anyone with a little knowledge can do that to your connected stuff too. That's not good. It's life-threatening in some cases, and that's not funny any more.
"A new study published in the International Journal of Health Services only further corroborates this fact. Researchers found that black and Hispanic young people were less able to get mental health services than white children and young adults. This happens despite the fact that rates of mental illness are generally consistent across all ethnicities, Kaiser Health News reported.
Unfortunately, this new study is just one example of a barrier people of color face when it comes to mental health. We gathered just a few staggering statistics that put it all into perspective. Check them out below:"
The current mental health system fails everyone, but for minority groups, it fails even more. We need to be better for everyone, and changing these statistics!
"Thousands of Australian men have joined a viral selfie campaign to promote open conversations about suicide and mental health.
The #ItsOkayToTalk campaign has gathered momentum globally after UK rugby player Luke Ambler posted a selfie that encouraged his friends and teammates to start opening up.
Mr Ambler started the campaign after the sudden death of his brother-in-law.
Thousands of men worldwide have since posted their own selfies featuring an okay hand sign, as well as details of suicide statistics for men."
Good for everyone involved. It is OK to talk about mental health.
"Frankly, whichever figure we go with, if this was a communicable disease such as measles or rubella, mass inoculations and huge public health campaigns would be the order of the day. But it’s not – it’s the rape and violation of children, so silence and turning away, wholly or partially, are the responses."
Unfortunately, this is absolutely true. We don't want to think about children being abused, so we don't. There are no photos of children looking miserably sick in a hospital or injured in the back of an ambulance that will get everyone's attention and go viral on social media. There are just millions of people growing up with all sorts of mental health problems, addiction problems, relationship problems, and on and on as a result of the abuse they suffered as a child. I guess that doesn't warrant the same level of attention, right?
"Believe it or not, it’s almost time for another ILTACON! ILTACON is the annual conference for the International Legal Technology Association (ILTA). This year, it is being held in the shadow of Washington, DC in Alexandria, VA at the Gaylord National Resort & Convention Center. And, once again, eDiscovery Daily will be covering the show! If you’re in the DC area next week, you may want to check out a few of these sessions regarding eDiscovery and Information Governance."
As much as I have been traveling this month already, I am glad that attending this year was not really an option. It would have been yet another trip all the way across the US that I'm not sure I'm up for.
Still, I'm going to miss connecting with many friend I've made over the years at that conference. Hope you all have a great week, and I will be keeping an eye on Twitter and blogs to see what's happening in DC!
Christopher Anderson is the executive director of a national organization called MaleSurvior – an organization dedicated to assisting and advocating for men who have suffered some form of sexual abuse.
This is an interview for WOUB with Christopher. If you want to know more about the organization or about male abuse victims, take a listen!
Having her case dropped again hit Dodd hard, Newton said. “Every time she brought herself to a place to be able to confront this, to be able to be honest about it, to voice what happened, and then nothing was done, I think the weight just grew. And then, you know, ultimately Jeanna’s death.”
People always ask me what I think should have happened to Youssefi. Years in prison? Intensive counseling?
Even after all my reporting, I’m still not sure.
But I do know one thing: When Dodd told her school counselor about Youssefi, I hadn’t started taking gymnastics yet. If the prosecutor then had decided to charge Youssefi, maybe he never would have become my coach.
"This might sound corny. But as more of our digital spaces become stuffed with news — and, perhaps more alarmingly, suffused with an anxiety to always put forward your best self — there seems to be a growing appetite for honest, unself-conscious personal sharing online. That is helping to fuel not only Instagram Stories but also Snapchat, which recently surpassed the unceasingly newsy Twitter in daily use, and Musical.ly, a two-year-old app on which young people (mostly) make music videos.
These are among a handful of apps that are creating a charming alternative universe online — a welcome form of earnest, escapist entertainment that makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside, in a way that recalls an earlier epoch in carefree internet socializing."
I was a late-comer to understanding what Snapchat could offer, but recently, I have started using my Snapchat story to document some of the odd, funny, things I come across while traveling, or to send a pic to specific people, knowing full well that it'll disappear in 24 hours. It's not about creating something that equates to how I would want to be seen by someone, perhaps a potential employer, who hit up my social media profile. I have my blog, twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook profiles for that. This is just about having fun with friends while I'm traveling around the world.
I think there is a place for that. I think the kids are on to something.
So, if you want to see some of the silliness, feel free to add me on snapchat. At least until that become hugely popular and we all have to change our behavior again. ;-)
"Naked Security reports that a new survey shows users still prefer passwords over other authentication methods such as biometrics. The survey revealed that 58% of people prefer to use passwords for accessing online services. Fingerprints were the most popular biometric method at 10% and only 9% of those survey thought that collecting biometric data was safe."
The thing is, we all already know our passwords aren't safe. That has been proven over and over again. But the pain is relatively lightweight. If your password might have gotten leaked, it's easy to change that. If your fingerprint, or iris print, got exposed, that is a little more difficult to change. I'm not surprised that so few people trust the storage of biometric data and some of the reasons listed in the article are completely valid.
Until those concerns can be overcome, I'm afraid we're stuck with passwords.
The real question to me is, given all the boxing matches with questionable results, let alone ones we know were clearly fixed, why is boxing even still in the Olympics?