Randy Bauer's List: Well-Being-Shift

• The PERMA Model was developed by respected positive psychologist, Martin Seligman, and was widely published in his influential 2011 book, "Flourish."

   

  "PERMA" stands for the five essential elements that should be in place for us to experience lasting well-being. These are:
• For us to experience well-being, we need positive emotion in our lives. Any positive emotion like peace, gratitude, satisfaction, pleasure, inspiration, hope, curiosity, or love falls into this category – and the message is that it's really important to enjoy yourself in the here and now, just as long as the other elements of PERMA are in place.

• When we're truly engaged in a situation, task, or project, we experience a state of flow: time seems to stop, we lose our sense of self, and we concentrate intensely on the present.

   

  This feels really good! The more we experience this type of engagement, the more likely we are to experience well-being.
• As humans, we are "social beings," and good relationships are core to our well-being. Time-and-again, we see that people who have meaningful, positive relationships with others are happier than those who do not. Relationships really do matter!
• Meaning comes from serving a cause bigger than ourselves. Whether this is a specific deity or religion, or a cause that helps humanity in some way, we all need meaning in our lives to have a sense of well-being.
• Many of us strive to better ourselves in some way, whether we're seeking to master a skill, achieve a valuable goal, or win in some competitive event. As such, accomplishment is another important thing that contributes to our ability to flourish.

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• What is confidence? Confidence is belief your your ability to get, do or be what you want. It is feeling comfortable in your own skin. It is a feeling of certainty that you can get the job done.

   

  Normally, you gain confidence as you do things. Think about something you feel confident about: you will notice that your confidence is supported by legs of experience. The thing you are confident about is like the seat of a chair, and each leg is an experience/memory you have of doing that thing well. The more legs you have, the more stable/confident you feel in that specific area when you “sit in the chair.”
• But how do you start out? What do you do if you have no confidence to take the first step?
• The answer is to borrow experiences from others through stories. The best way to do this is to watch videos, listen to interviews, and read autobiographies by people who have achieved what you want or achieved things even greater under much more difficult situations. By comparison, it will make you feel like your journey ahead isn’t so bad.

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