Brian _'s List: PUA

• being in the moment.
• The whole time I'm escalating Kino.
• Men are proud of our achievements.
• Be decisive with your words and actions.
• Make sure to pause frequently and during that time experience you're own reaction to what is being said.
• Take note of actions, not words.
• My only agenda is to have a great night with my friends.
• Take it or leave it, thats the mentality.
• Zero dependence on outcome.
• I approach everyone.
• at least said SOMETHING to everyone in the venue, or at the very least acknowledged their existence.
• Some examples of what real values can be are Creativity, Honesty, Loyalty, Drive, etc.
• And another thing, never take girls seriously. Ever. The only time you are ever allowed to take a female that you are gaming seriously is after your dick has been inside of her. Even then, its not worth it
• Know you're values and what you want, its all a filtration system.
• We began going out almost EVERY NIGHT.

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• it is just as important to have the men of a social scene to respect you as it is to have the girls attracted to you.
• keep it real
• Real value is intrinsic while social value is manufactured.
• This means that you are as valuable as you allow yourself to be.
• Just share YOUR experience and perspective. Not what you see, but how you see it.
• People love to talk about themselves and their dreams.
• At the same time, don’t ever linger on a single topic with a single person. Be random. Don’t expect your audiences attention and never fixate on one individual for too long (unless you’re going to pull really soon).
• Take interest in what they are saying and encourage them, but allow your attention to wander. Make them earn it.
• Learn to know and love yourself. Every little quirk that you may try to hide from the status quo is actually a little gold nugget of your self trying to shine through.
• Treat everyone as an equal. This means dropping your ego and seeing through the ego of others.
• Never try to impress anyone.
• At the same token, don’t submit to the ego needs of others. Stay neutral yet encouraging.
• Share your goals and outlook on life. Going back to understanding yourself, know WHY you have the goals you do. When its your turn to talk about YOUR self, you won’t come off as bragging but instead, inspiring.
• Instead, work the room. Your presence is most valued when you’re not around.
• realize that not everyone is worth your time. Dudes can be real assholes and girls can be psychotic bitches
• If they don’t open up to you the move on.
• Everyone is trying to fulfill a role to some degree.
• See the person behind the mask without judgment
• Just never get attached to people who aren’t worthy of your value. If they don’t reciprocate, they’re not worth your time.
• Ultimately it is YOU who has the choice of who you bring into your life. Don’t be afraid to stand your ground, and never compromise your values for anyone.

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• SHOCK and AWE is not high risk. It sounds like it is, but it's really not - and I'll explain why in a moment. 

  It's not even advanced. I'd call it intermediate. If you can open, and you can get attraction, and you can chill out and chat with a chick and not get weird - you can do this. 
• If you're having problems stringing a sentence together, if your body language sucks, if you have shit VOICE PROJECTION (this, as Jeffy points out, is crucial to all game) - this will not work.
• Basically, being open about your desire and BLAMING THE CHICK for being hot is fucking dynamite.

• You're not making a "Statement of Interest." You're not making a "Statement Of Intent." 

  You're stating your DESIRE.  

  This is a whole 'nuther level of important. There's not "I intend to sleep with you" or "I am interested in you". This is you talking about your DESIRE alone. That is all. How hot she is. How sexy she is. How awesome her body is. 

  Just pure sex, right from the outset. 
• 1) Approach with an SOI, then SOI stack, blaming her hotness for your actions.

• Make sure they are creative and funky SOIs. Think of it like jazz. SOI jazz. Free form, just go for it. Say anything. It's not important. What is important is that you blame her for being hot. Say something like  

  "Excuse me, but what? What do you want? Do you want me to just walk on by? I mean, you're absolutely stunning. Do you want me to just pretend like that doesn't effect me? I mean, how? I'm just some guy. I can't turn it off. What are you trying to do to me, woman?" etc.... 
• 2) Always be escalating physically, always always always.

• Blame her for the fact you can't keep your hands off her. Act like you're trying to keep your hands of her and you just can't. Blame her more. Ask her why she's doing this to you. Physically fight your urge to touch her, and make this conflict OBVIOUS. You are a wild animal STRAINING against a tight fucking leash. You're in control... but BARELY. 

  Don't fake this. Really get into this headspace. Ozzie's recent post on the Wild Man is EXACTLY what you need to do here. 
• 3) Express desire, do this relentlessly and blame her for it.

• Tell her you deserve a gold star for effort for not jumping all over her. Keep it funny, but make sure the vibe is highly erotic. Remember - LAUGHING, NOT JOKING. You're laughing at the silliness of the extremeness of the situation, but you're not joking. If I'm saying "I'll fuck you blind, woman." I can say it with a smile on my face, and I can laugh at the sexiness of the situation, at the coolness of the vibe, at the fun we are having... but NEVER at whether or not I genuinely want to fuck her. That is NEVER in doubt. You are not JOKING and HEDGING YOUR BETS. Fuck that pussy ass shit. You are laying your cards ON THE TABLE. You're just doing it in an entertaining and cool way. 

  That's the way this works. Tell her that if she doesn't stop being hot you're not going be held responsible. Tell her to eat a load of pies, and gain 5 stone so you can connect with her personality without wanting to tear all her clothes off. 
• 4) If you push it too far, apologise for the disrespect and not the action.
• Genuinely apologise. Really. Actually do this and FUCKING MEAN IT. But remember - ONLY apologise for the DISRESPECT. NEVER apologise for the ACTION/SOI/KINO. Then tell her you did it because she's really hot. Blame her for being hot. Tell her she should wear a bag over her head so you can have a normal conversation with her.

• 5) Go to step 2. 

  You can basically do this until she breaks. It's great.

• Group Shock and Awe.

   

  S+A the entire group as an opener and then drop into a highly charged comfort phase.  

• This is also how you NEUTALIZE ALL RISK associated with being so extreme.  

  You just say something like "No - no, this is ridiculous. I'm going to find out who you are. You can't do this to me. I have depth. Tell me about yourself." 

• It's all about the vibe, about magnifying the vibe.  

  And the vibe is generated from the fact that she's so sexy she's breaking you down, but you're resisting. That's where the tension comes from. 

• This is the heart of it. You are talking direct, but you're blaming her hottness for your directness.  

  As such, it's like two different levels of compliment, both of which are highly unusual and extremely difficult to resist. 

  You're basically telling her it's totally out of character for you to behave like this and you're fighting it, but you're really, really struggling. 
• This isn't an academic issue. This frame is how you avoid ASD when going for a Fool's Mate. The frame is, she is breaking down your resolve with her hotness. This is massive.

• You Say I Should Kino Escalate - How? 

  Look - you've gotta be savvy with it, but anyone who's good with girls will tell you that you can get very tactile very quickly as long as you aren't being weird.  

  Don't paw her. Slide your fingertips along her arms. Take her hand in yours, really, really lightly (this is killer). Glide your hands on her skin. Hardly touch her at all. Even move your hands toward her waist then pull them back as if dragging them back against resistance (don't be weird, it's all kinda tongue in cheek) and then give up. Then pull them back again. Then berate her more for being hot. 

• What If I Run Out Of Things To Say? 

  A big part of this is about getting creative with your compliments. I don't want to give too many actual examples of stuff, mainly because the stuff you say doesn't have to be da vinci.  

• Another one that I came up with that I thought was great (and makes a brilliant opener) is when I'm talking to a chick, to just look at her boobs, look back at her eyes, and then in my best Hugh Grantish voice say "I'm terribly sorry, I just totally checked you out." 

  They'll usually laugh and say "that's ok." or something. Then you can drop straight into S+A and say "It's your fault. You're totally stunning. I'm just some guy. I can't stand up to this kind of artillery." 

  I love saying that. The artillery thing. It's almost my trademark. Never got a bad reaction, ever. Not once. 

• WARNING - GET YOUR INNER GAME SORTED OUT FIRST

   

  There's something important that I want to say here. 

  I knew a guy who had major issues with women, really negative stuff. You know, when a guy gets vindictive, or harbours a grudge against women because they've never wanted him.  

  I showed him S+A, and pulled a couple of chicks in front of him so he could see it. He wanted to have a go. 

  It wasn't good.  

  When I watched him do this, you could actually see that he really was actually angry. It was scary and weird. We talked through a lot of it, but I realised that if you do actually harbour actual aggression or resentment toward women, this comes across and they will freak and run.  

  Women are lovely. Remember this.

• What I'm saying is that this has to be genuine. Direct game, if not genuine, is seedy, manipulative weirdness.  

  S+A is a vibe. It is a route of expression.  

  The inner game stuff, the practise - all that jazz, is the iceberg. This is the tip.  

  This is not a short cut.

• Closing Statements 

  Shock and Awe is the pinnacle of direct game as I practice it.  

  Fool's Mate game.  

  No bullshit, no tactics, just straight in there, make a girl feel really sexy, have great fun with her, be cool, go back to your/her place and do the hunka-chunka. Problem solved. 

  This isn't about tricking girls into stuff, or playing them. If you try that, you'll fail, and I will personally batter you senseless with your own shoes.  

  This is about refusing to be a leaf in the hurricane. 

  This is about being the hurricane, gentlemen. 

  Be the fucking hurricane. 

• About 10% of your words should be telling her that she's hot. 

  About 90% of your words should be blaming her for the effect she's having on you. 

  You will find this devastatingly effective, and it's actually a lot less scary. Do this. It's great fun.  

  After a while you can start dropping the 'blame' ratio and upping the 'hot' ratio - but until you are TOTALLY COMFORTABLE do not do this.
• "I've done this for a long time... except he describes it a lot more clearly than I had it worked out in my head... I used to call it "making hardcore sexual comments and then plowing them under and/or acting 'self-aware' (i.e. giving looks like, 'yeah, I know I'm an idiot, bear with me.')." Like, I'll look them up and down and growl and be all, "DAMN.... anyway!" and "snap out of it." Or say, "Damn... you're like the hottest chick I've ever seen in my fucking life" and then act all "embarrassed" that I said it, and plow on... I will continually drop these comments and steadily escalate. They either leave, or get horny as fuck." - Jlaix
• Regarding tone: "I personally either go for 1 Totally deadpan ( not because you need to, just because I find it funny), 2 Twitching at the leash barely controlling myself, or 3 Talking about the weather. Completely normal. All these work. I'm sure you'll find your own." - Ciaran

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• Here is the essence of it: Profess your undying affection and devotion to the girl - and then NEXT her.
• When to use this? When you have seen her several times, you have had great rapport, but now it feels like she is starting to flake.
• PUA: I think about you day and night. You are so beautiful and I adore you. But now I must go. You have touched me on a very deep level and it is more than I can bear. I am helpless before other women and I will only hurt you and myself. I can't see you anymore.
• And this is important - say it and then split. Get the hell out of Dodge.
• She almost certainly will try to coax you back. But only if you do this move while your rapport is still fairly strong and things are still going reasonably well between you two when you ditch her.
• ME: (kissing her neck and talking very slowly) You know what I am, HB? I am your teardrop... I was conceived in your heart... I was born in your eyes... I live on your cheeks... and I will die on your lips.
  
  Then while lightly kissing her lips, I said some variation of the adoration / Nexting phrase I mentioned earlier. And then I got up and took off.

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• Contrary to popular opinion, women do like nice guys. What they don't like is  guys who let women walk all over them.

• Study and practice David Shade's eye contact experiments.

  • When you lock eye contact with a woman, do not smile or say "Hi" until she does. If she smiles, you smile. If she says "Hi," you say "Hi." Do not say "Hello." If you smile or say "Hi" first, you may lose her.

  • The only time you do not look a woman in the eyes is when you are "motioning away" as you mention something "bad", such as her borefriend. Anything "bad" is associated with "looking away."
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  • • When you are talking to a woman, always maintain eye contact. This demonstrates confidence and intent. Don't theorize about it, just do it. Pick one eye and stick with it. Don't go from eye to eye, that is nervous. That can only be done with great skill as she will associate eye changes to content.

    • Remain completely expressionless. Do not blink. Think about her eyes
      as the window to her mind as you look into her eyes.

    • When I saw a woman walking towards me, I maintained looking at
      her eyes.
• Go out and do Svengali's newbie mission.

  • As you're doing so, say "hi" and give a smile to every woman who passes you by, and who is next to you, and who is in front of you, or whatever. The smile doesn't have to be this big cheesy grin, but whatever is your normal, comfortable way of smiling. {Any kind of smile shows you're not depressed, nor someone to be afraid of.}

  • Tomorrow, or Saturday, or Sunday, groom and dress yourself real nice. I'm not asking anyone to put on any suits, or ties, or jackets (unless that is your comfortable style), but rather dress in your own comfortable, natural way, wearing clean and at least reasonably pressed clothes. Then drive to the nearest shopping mall/center and walk around looking and damn near everything.

• It's scary, dude, I know. And it's not scary to approach a woman or be direct - it's scary to PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE.
   
   The thing is, as long as you don't compliment a chick, you can pull a chick without ever exposing yourself to ridicule.
   
   You say you've never complimented a chick?
   
   Dude, it is a fucking myth that complimenting loses you power.
   
   Complimenting BADLY is what loses you power.
   
   This is how to compliment WELL. That GAINS power for you, and her. Win-win.
   
   You say you've never complimented a chick?
   
   Perhaps it's time you stepped out of your comfort zone and took a leap of faith.
• We tell her she's so fucking incredibly steaming hot that you can barely hold ourselfs back, imagine a fucking LION holding himself back from fucking one of his ladies. Your the fucking lion restraining yourself, the urges are almost to much but you really try to be nice and polite. Oh the sexy ass, the HOT boobs. Feel free to stare and then suddenly snap out of it, its her own fault for being so freaking sexy.
• "Fuck, I can't control myself. Im gonna throw you over my shoulder, carry you home and keep you as a sexslave. No mercy, day and night, just fucking. I'd have to stop working just to have my urges settled."

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