Isn’t that wonderfully apt? The authors add this gem about relationships with narcissists or crazymakers, “You veer between wanting to kill them and wanting to kill yourself.”
Their time, schedules, energy, drama, and life issues always outweigh yours From the book:
3 ) They belittle and downplay your needs, emergencies, and requests Despite howling over a broken nail, a crazymaker will say your requests for their time or help are just so much drama — a way for you to get attention. They might also add, that you are disrespectfully expecting too much of their good will or prevailing too much on their valuable time.
Paranoid narcissists. This type of narcissist feels intense contempt for him- or herself, but projects it outward onto others. Paranoid narcissists frequently drive other people away from them by hypercritical and jealous comments and behaviors.
Abortion could have aggrevated this behavior.
Freud thought that all human infants pass through a phase of primary narcissism, in which they assume they are the center of their universe. This phase ends when the baby is forced by the realities of life to recognize that it does not control its parents (or other caregivers) but is in fact entirely dependent on them.
distorted cognition, or knowing
Still others regard the core problem as the narcissist's inability to test reality and construct an accurate view of him- or herself.
Instead of having a judgmental and overactive conscience, these patients had a weak or nonexistent code of morals.
Family therapists are now reporting on the treatment of families in which the children are replicating the narcissistic disorders of their parents.
a pattern of alternating between unrealistic idealization of others and equally unrealistic devaluation of them
hypersensitivity to criticism, however mild, or rejection from others
an unstable view of the self that fluctuates between extremes of self-praise and self-contempt
preoccupation with outward appearance, "image," or public opinion rather than inner reality
painful emotions based on shame (dislike of who one is)
On the second level are those who function satisfactorily in their jobs but seek professional help because they cannot form healthy relationships or because they feel generally bored and aimless.