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22 Sep 09

Weblogg-ed » Don’t, Don’t, Don’t vs. Do, Do, Do

Will R. shares an experience of a school with a 9 page "Don't" policy for the internet.

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8-page Acceptable Use Policy
all the ways in which students (and teachers) could get themselves in trouble on the school network.
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- people shouldn’t be harassing one another, going around the filter, accessing shopping sites, accessing any sites that were “social in nature” and, the big one, downloading software to school computers for personal use. And much, much more.
- I’d rather take my chances with my phone and my computer at home. (About 90% of students in this district had access from home.)
- “Do use our network to connect to other students and adults who share your passions with whom you can learn.”
  
  “Do use our network to help your teachers find experts and other teachers from around the world.”
  
  “Do use our network to publish your best work in text and multimedia for a global audience.”
  
  “Do use our network to explore your own creativity and passions, to ask questions and seek answers from other teachers online.”
  
  “Do use our network to download resources that you can use to remix and republish your own learning online.”
  
  “Do use our network to collaborate with others to change the world in meaningful, positive ways.”

14 Aug 09

ConnectSafely Forums: Community

A forum of parents conversing with each other on parenting and technology. Seems to be very active

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17 Jul 09

NetFamilyNews

Lots of kid-tech news here for parents. She takes larger stories and gives the summary

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Spying on the Text Generation - The Boston Globe

Several real life stories of how parents are handling their "Always On" teens in a world of technology

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One mom does her best surveillance work in the laundry room.
Effective detective work? Absolutely. Effective parenting? That's less clear.
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- Teenage Research Unlimited, one-quarter of teens admitted to having texted or called their boyfriend or girlfriend hourly between midnight and 5 a.m.
- teenagers live in a state of continuous connection
- MIT professor Sherry Turkle is a leading thinker on the relationship between human beings and technology.
- "Parents were not built to know the kinds of things that technology makes possible."
- Some 75 percent of American teenagers ages 13 to 17 have cellphones, according to a 2008 survey by the research firm Yankee Group
- In Norway, according to Telenor/Statistics Norway, 87 percent of 10-year-olds now have their own cellphone
- allows direct, adult- circumvented communication at any time, whether under the desk during class or under the covers at home after lights out.
- "For grown-ups, intimacy involves a kind of privacy. For teens, they're coming up with a kind of intimacy that doesn't depend on privacy."
- (Two other things most teens I know increasingly have little use for: e-mail and voice mail. They see e-mail as something akin to the rotary phone in an elderly neighbor's house: usable if necessary, but why would you choose it when there are so many better options? And they see leaving or checking voice-mail messages as a waste of time that only parents seem to indulge, since caller ID makes it clear who called you, and texting makes it easy to transmit information.)
- Much has been made of how this interconnectivity is making teens more independent. But Turkle has come to the opposite conclusion. "The parent is always on speed dial,"
- No one is added to Jackie's IM "Buddy List" without Su- san's approval, and that list includes Susan, so she can always tell when her daughter is online.
- Jackie is allowed to visit only those websites that Susan has approved, and Susan receives a daily report of Jackie's online activity. About once a week, she logs on to Jackie's account to eyeball her e-mails and any instant messages her daughter has saved.
- "A lot of my contemporaries are reluctant to police their children's activities," Susan says. "I don't stand over her with a shotgun, but I do believe in being diligent."
- My Mobile Watchdog, which sends parents real-time copies on their own cellphones of every text message and picture sent or received on their child's phone.
- To make things more manageable, parents can elect not to receive copies of texts from people they "approve."
- he's found that predators "are moving from the PC to the cellphone" because carriers generally expunge text messages after a week or two. That makes it easier for predators to avoid getting caught.
- Teenagers have gotten pretty savvy at sussing out who is a complete stranger online.
- he knew they had been spying on him, and it didn't take long for him to determine they'd been doing it for some time. "He was pretty angry," Sam says, "He felt kind of invaded.
- "WU," "NMU," "JC" - shorthand for "What's up?" "Not much, you?" "Just chillin'
- his generation, which has refashioned the concept of time into a series of interruptions so constant that they hardly seem like interruptions anymore
- Edline, the service that Xaverian Brothers and schools across the country use to give parents continual e-mail updates on their children's academic performance.
- Calling it his "fear of God" speech, Greg warned them, "I can know everything you're doing online. But I'm not going to invade your privacy unless you give me a reason to."
- y relying on the threat of intervention rather than intervention itself, Greg has been able to avoid the drawbacks that several friends of mine told me they experienced after monitoring their teenagers' IM and text conversations.
- these parents came to the conclusion that it would be impossible for them not to think less of their kids if they continued to listen in, and that would be unfair, because their own parents never had transcripts of their teen conversations and were no worse for not knowing.
- social theorist Erving Goffman is instructive. Goffman talked about how we all have "front-stage" and "backstage" personas.
- "Everyone needs to be able to retreat to the backstage," Palen says. "These kids need to learn. Maybe they need to use bad language to realize that they don't want to use bad language. If parents are always going to be monitoring, their kids are always going to be front-stage."
- When teens get into uncomfortable territory online, they need to turn to parents for guidance and perspective. And the parents who seem connected to technology, rather than advertising their disconnect like an ever-blinking 12:00 on a VCR clock, are going to be better equipped to help.
- The Mac that Hayley uses sits in the high-traffic dining room, allowing them to keep tabs on her just by walking by.
- Because kids can remain in the loop with whole groups of their friends without actually being next to them, the urge to always be out of the house isn't as intense as it was in the days when kids roamed the town, unpoliced in packs, until curfew.

Fostering Safer Schools with Anonymous Communication, AnComm’s ‘Talk About It®’

anonymous online and text based reporting and emergency notification service for schools.

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6 Things You Need to Know About Cyberbullying | Radical Parenting

6 (rather basic) tips on cyberbullying

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2) Instant
there is no ‘off’ time and the second something happens, everyone knows about it
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- Teens are checking these services CONSTANTLY, so before what took a few days to spread, now can take a few minutes.
- 3) Permanent
- 4) Accessible
- 5) Cool
- 6) Buffered
- It is really hard to walk up to someone and say to them: “You are a fat slut.” It is much easier to write that on someone’s Facebook wall

15 Jul 09

Technology in the Middle » Blog Archive » Facebook in 15 Minutes

Overview of a parent session on Facebook. Content is basic "need to know" stuff for the newbies. Gives good links to reference to as well.

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13 Jul 09

Internet Safety: The mistake of talking down to kids » Moving at the Speed of Creativity

His review of a Internet Safety Video and then suggesting some of his own tips for parents

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1- Have clear boundaries for all digital technologies: TVs, MP3 players, cell phones, land line phones, computers, DVD players, console game systems, handheld game systems.

2- Beware if/when your child quickly closes a computer window when you come into the room or look over their shoulder. If they have something to hide, you both need to talk about it openly and honestly.

3- Get an account on the social networking sites your kids are using, make them make you a “friend” so you can fully see their profile and connect to their friends.

4- If the social networking sites your child uses permit them to make a “limited profile,” have them choose that option.

5- Don’t lie about your age when you register for something online. (This goes for all kids as well as parents.)

6- Use kid-appropriate search engines for Internet research. Examples: Nettrekker, Yahoo Kids

7- Use kid-appropriate social networking websites (and still practice safe usage guidelines). Examples: Imbee, Webkinz, Club Penguin, Think.com

8- Be wary of advertising-intensive websites.

9- Be aware of proxy site availability and use. Ultimately there is NOT a technological solution for the “worst case” scenario of kids being kidnapped or running away from home. Open lines of communication with trusted and supportive adults is the best and only viable way to address this scenario.

10- Before kids go to a friend’s house and especially before a sleepover, discuss Internet safety just like you would discuss gun safety. Also ask the parents of the friend:

– What are your computer and Internet access rules at your house?

– Do you let your children get online in their bedroom?

– Do you have a content filter installed on your home computer or on your home network?

Digital Dialog - safe, appropriate, and fun uses of digital technologies!

A Ning social page for people talking about Internet Safety.

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Cable in the Classroom - Press Release

A 2007 study showing parents reaction to their kids use of the internet.

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85 percent of parents and legal guardians of children ages 6 to 18 who go online say they have talked to their child in the past year about how to be safe and smart online, and more than 93 percent say they have taken action to make sure the Web sites their kid visits meets with their approval.
(71 percent) of parents reported having experienced one or more Internet-related issues with their child within the past year, an overwhelming majority of parents also believe the Internet is helpful to their kids. Parents agreed that the Internet has helped their child to learn skills and information needed to succeed in school (81 percent), learn about different cultures and ideas (74 percent), access current events and news (68 percent), express him/herself creatively (65 percent), and connect to and collaborate with people with similar interests (53 percent).
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- being exposed to advertising or commercialism online (52 percent), spending too much time online (31 percent), spending too little time exercising or being outdoors because of the Internet (26 percent), being exposed to coarse language, or sexual or violent content online (24 percent), being exposed to misleading or bad information online (23 percent), and being distracted from schoolwork because of the Internet (20 percent).
- parents continue to have issues with their kids’ Web use, but those issues aren’t scaring them away from letting their kids go online
- 86 percent of highly-engaged parents said that the Internet helps their children learn about different cultures and ideas. Only 58 percent of less-engaged parents said the same. In terms of accessing current events and news, 82 percent of highly-engaged parents said the Internet was beneficial, whereas only 47 of less-engaged said it was helpful.

11 Jul 09

Social Networking Sites Safer Than IM or Chat Rooms - washingtonpost.com

Nice set of data on how IM and Chat rooms are more dangerous than SNS. Also has some parenting tips

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most of the unwanted solicitation actually happens in chat rooms and via instant messaging, a new study finds.
only 15 percent of children experience unwanted sexual solicitation and only a third report being harassed online,
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- But we found that instant messaging was more frequently cited than social networking sites as places for unwanted sexual solicitation and harassment
- 15 percent said they had an unwanted sexual solicitation. Only one-fourth of these occurred on a social networking site
- 33 percent said they were harassed online. About one-fourth of the incidents occurred on a social networking site.
- 43 percent of unwanted sexual solicitations occurred via instant messaging, and 32 percent occurred in chat rooms. Harassment was most common with instant messaging, which accounted for 55 percent, the researchers found.
- rather than focusing on the technology, the focus should be placed on the children themselves. "We need to stop worrying about social networking sites and pay more attention to what young people are doing online generally
- "We need to stop trying to scare our kids. We need to start having real conversations,"
- "We need to help parents understand it's not about social networking sites, it's about monitoring what's going on," Ybarra said. "Just as you should know where your child is after school, you should know where they go online."
- The fear of social networking sites has lead one state to propose a law that would attempt to bar sex offenders from these sites.

10 Jul 09

Is MySpace Good for Society? A Freakonomics Quorum

A set of opinions from experts on the question above. Lots of great quotes here.

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Martin Baily, Danah Boyd, Steve Chazin, Judith Donath, Nicole Ellison, and William Reader
Has social networking technology (blog-friendly phones, Facebook, Twitter, etc.) made us better or worse off as a society, either from an economic, psychological, or sociological perspective?
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- Our survey included questions designed to assess students’ “social capital,” a concept that describes the benefits individuals receive from their relationships with others.
- Undergraduates who used Facebook intensively had higher bridging social capital scores than those who didn’t, and our longitudinal data show that Facebook use preceded these social capital gains.
- Bridging social capital reflects the benefits we receive from our “weak ties” — people we don’t know very well but who provide us with useful information and ideas
- IBM, for instance, has created an internal social network site, “Beehive,” to encourage more collaboration and communication across teams.
- Barry Wellman) have suggested that social capital hasn’t really declined, but has simply moved online.
- Some doom-mongers have suggested that social networking technologies will eventually lead to a society in which we no longer engage in face-to-face contact with people.
- friendships represent a considerable burden on our time, and our physical and emotional resources. Friends are, therefore, a big investment, and we want to be pretty sure that any friend is prepared to invest as much in us as we are in them
- We therefore monitor potential friends for signals of their investment in us, and some of the best indicators of people’s investment in us are those that we experience face to face.
- We know that people like to associate with people who are like them, a predilection termed “homophily” (love of the same)
- social networking will never replace face-to-face communication in the formation of close friendships.
- when many students begin university, they find themselves with a group of ready-made acquaintances
- I can know what’s on their minds (MySpace), who else they know (Facebook/LinkedIn), and even what they are doing at this very moment (Twitter).
- Today, we experience a feeling of isolation when our Internet connections go down, revealing just how dependent we’ve become on the connective power of the Web.
- The bad: they devalue the meaning of “friend.” Our traditional notion of friendship embraces trust, support, compatible values, etc. On social network sites, a “friend” may simply be someone on whose link you have clicked.
- The ugly: for teens, who can be viciously competitive, networking sites that feature a list of one’s best friends and space for everyone to comment about you can be an unpleasant venue for social humiliation and bullying. These sites can make the emotional landmines of adolescence concrete and explicit.
- social circles will consist of many more, but weaker, ties.
- Social networking technologies provide people with a low cost (in terms of time and effort) way of making and keeping social connections,
- As an ethnographer traipsing across the U.S., I have heard innumerable stories of how social media has been used to bring people together, support learning, and provide an outlet for creative expression.
- For homosexual teens in rural America, they can be tools for self-realization in the battle against depression.
- Unfortunately, those who do not understand social media look to the news, see the negative coverage, and declare all social media evil.
- t’s equally easy to look at the new technology that we don’t understand and blame it as the cause for all social ills. It’s a lot harder to accept that social media is mirroring and magnifying all of the good, bad, and ugly about today’s society, shoving it right back in our faces in the hopes that we might face the underlying problems. Technology does not create bullying; it simply makes it more visible and much harder for adults to ignore.

Virginia Heffernan - The Medium - Television - Internet Video - Media - New York Times

A reporter reflects on her time growing up in the early days of computers. Best part is the quote i highlighted.

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Successfully “playing the computer,” as we used to call it, requires a set of skills: social intuition, inventive self-presentation, speedy and clever writing, discretion, intricate etiquette, self-protection.

How Dangerous Is the Internet for Children? - New York Times

Great article on how some of our fears are overblown some under. Talks about the famous PBS special

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Sure, there are dangers. But they’re hugely overhyped by the media. The tales of pedophiles luring children out of their homes are like plane crashes: they happen extremely rarely, but when they do, they make headlines everywhere. The Internet is just another facet of socialization for the new generation; as always, common sense and a level head are the best safeguards.”
My thinking was this: a seven-year-old is so far from puberty, naked pictures don’t yet have any of the baggage that we adults associate with them. Sex has no meaning yet; the concept produces no emotional charge one way or another.
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- sexual-predator thing is way, way overblown,
- The data shows that giving out personal information over the Internet makes absolutely no difference when it comes to a child's vulnerability to predation.”
- “If someone asks me where I live, I’ll delete the ‘friend.’ I mean, why do you want to know where I live at?” says one girl
- Fearmongers often cite the statistic, from a 2005 study by the Crimes Against Children Research Center, that 1 in 7 children have received sexual propositions while online. But David Finkelhor, author of that report, notes that many of these propositions don’t come from Internet predators at all. “Considerable numbers of them are undoubtedly coming from other kids, or just people who are acting weird online,” he says.
- cyber-bullying is a far more realistic threat

Class teaches importance of ‘Net safety - Westmont, IL - Westmont Progress

IL school creates a websmart session support by state legislature.

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Nearly 30 percent of fifth-graders through high school seniors said if their parents knew what they were doing on the Internet, they would disapprove, restrict their computer use or even take away their computer, according to a survey by nonprofit Internet education foundation i-Safe.
Missouri high school student who committed suicide after receiving hurtful messages on MySpace
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- hree main areas during the presentation: social networking sites, chatrooms and peer-to-peer communication like text messages, and cyber-bullying.
- Westmont Junior High, Web sites like MySpace and Facebook are blocked, but that does not mean they are necessarily bad.

Parent Workshop - Web Safety-Education Links

A nice collection of links and pdfs for parents.

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Cable in the Classroom - Social Networking

A nice collection of basic howto stuff for beginner parents on understanding and parenting online. Mostly talks about Myspace, not Facebook

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MySpace's 4 Tips for Parents to talk about Web Safety

1) Start a convo
2) Report inappropriate Behavior
3) Talk about the internet
4) Remind teens to be cautious

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MySpace's Parent Safety Page

As the title states.

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61% of teenagers have a personal profile on a social networking site. Teens 13 and older use MySpace to connect with friends and find others that share similar interests. MySpace plays an important communication and social support role in teens' daily lives. They are using MySpace to express themselves,

Kidswirl - Create Your Account

A facebook knockoff as a safe place for families to connect. I didn't log in but the log in page is identical to FB

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