Loc Hoang's Profile

is an olympic class lover

Ultimately you throw away the checklist and ask yourself if you are relaxed and happy with your partner. If you look forward to spending today, this coming weekend and the rest of your life together. Do they love you the way you want to be loved. No one has ever loved me the way my wife loves me. No one. Not even clos

He can't always make you feel that way... because feelings come and go. Your happy one day, sad the next... ect.



Ah, you think that unless you have some instant chemistry that you will never have it? I create passion. I have a fire inside, and when I put fuel on it... an inferno of passion consumes the relationship.



Your thinking... Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, but I'm saying if you think Romeo and Juliet were really in love... then you don't know what love is.

The core of this debate seems to be:



Is it who the person is, or what you're capable of building with the person?



I think both are important and they're inextricable from one another. But for sure, expectation management is part of starting to build a connection with someone that's actually sustainable, because no one's perfect.

It's not so much about traits as about values, yeah. But, traits like looks, intellect, and surface demeanor are what attract you to someone in the first place, and further, often in themselves shape behaviors, even in subtle and unseen ways.



You can't distill people down to their essence and treat them as such, before knowing them well. That's why dating can be so difficult. Getting to know someone is a long process, and for sure, you want to make sure you're not rejecting people you might grow to like. It's always a good idea to have input from friends on whether you are too picky in general. But compatibility won't appear by will, no matter what your standards are.



Back to the original debate, I think the only people who need to worry, are "grass is greener" people. Most rational individuals are capable of deeply loving someone who's imperfect in several aspects.

I came into this world with nothing, and I leave this world with nothing but love...Everything else is just borrowed. - The Streets

I wanted to add, my expectations of what I want in a man has changed. I used to want a guy that would impress me - either by his attitude, resume, job, looks, popularity, whatever (very high school). Now I want a guy with whom I can build a good healthy relationship. So the premium is more on how we communicate and connect together than on who he is per se (though, of course, how someone communicates is part of who they are). But my relationships have improved tenfold since I changed my attitude.

For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love. -Carl Sagan

a handful, of guys in my life that I have been very very attracted to, and I really am only ever interested in someone if I feel that way about pretty much right off the bat.

And indeed in the cases of the guys I've been interested in, they did turn out to be quite fascinating, smart, funny, everything you could want really...even incredibly nice guys...just not nice to ME.

...lots of times people just don't seem to take a liking to me very easily for whatever reason. Strangely enough children and animals tend to adore me upon the instant they meet me. It's always been that way. That's nice for me because I do love children and animals too, but I don't have any of my own, children that is, have a cat, she's my guardian angel...gets lonely sometimes when you don't have a lot of people around that actually even like you.

And it represents too a waste; the person we are supposed to have the most significant connection to, our spouse, will not be the person we share our youthful passions with.

The evidence seems to be that it's difficult to integrate the romantic and sexual lives of men and women outside a culture that has a serious orientation to family. Feminists thought that they could control the outcomes of the sexual revolution in favour of female agency, but many seem to be angrier than ever about a culture of relationships that they themselves largely instigated.

I used to love brainless, beautiful girls. I could screw them , then leave without a backwards glance. No stress, no affection, just lust. The problem is when they open their mouths to speak. I finally realized that the sex wasn't worth the mind-numbing drivel

I love women who have their thought patterns deeply rooted in evolution.

Yes, the lover of an alpha male that is so manly she picks him based on his ability to produce superior offspring (and then leaves her to find his next recepticle ) is the women for me.