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• Bullying is when someone keeps doing or saying things to have power over another person.
• calling them names, saying or writing nasty things about them, leaving them out of activities, not talking to them, threatening them, making them feel uncomfortable or scared, taking or damaging their things, hitting or kicking them, or making them do things they don't want to do.
• They may see it as a way of being popular, or making themselves look tough and in charge.
• Some bullies do it to get attention or things, or to make other people afraid of them. Others might be jealous of the person they are bullying. They may be being bullied themselves.
• Some bullies may not even understand how wrong their behaviour is and how it makes the person being bullied feel
• Some young people are bullied for no particular reason,
• but sometimes it's because they are different in some way
• perhaps it's the colour of their skin, the way they talk, their size or their name.
    Sometimes young people are bullied because they look like they won't stand up for themselves.
• bullying is just part of growing up and a way for young people to learn to stick up for themselves.
• make young people feel lonely, unhappy and frightened
• feel unsafe and think there must be something wrong with them.
• lose confidence
• not want to go to school any more. It may make them sick.
  
• You've probably already tried ignoring the bully, telling them to stop and walking away whenever the bullying starts.
    If someone is bullying you, you should always tell an adult you can trust. This isn't telling tales. You have a right to be safe and adults can do things to get the bullying stopped.
    Even if you think you've solved the problem on your own, tell an adult anyway, in case it happens again.
    An adult you can trust might be a teacher, school principal, parent, someone from your family or whanau, or a friend's parent. If you find it difficult to talk about being bullied, you might find it easier to write down what's been happening to you and give it to an adult you trust.
• try to stop it. If you do nothing, you're saying that bullying is okay with you.
• treat others the way you would like to be treated.
• show the bully that you think what they're doing is stupid and mean.
• person being bullied to tell an adult they can trust.
  

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• makes all students feel unsafe.
• Promote a climate of cooperation and caring.
• encouraging acts of kindness and communicating values of cooperation and tolerance.

• school staff to model this behavior.
• Survey the school about bullying.
• clearly communicated  to staff, students, and parents.
• Establish a clear anti-bullying policy.
• Empower the silent majority to take action.
• schools need to encourage students to report any incidents.
• Tell students that reporting bullying  is not the same as tattling on a student.
• Help them understand what it feels like  to be teased and taunted, and make it clear that they are not to join in when  they observe a child being bullied.
• keep the names  of students who report bullying anonymous.
• Make it safe for students to report bullying.

• set up a box in classrooms or the main office where children  can leave notes about incidents of bullying.
• Be alert for signs that a student is being bullied.

• student's reluctance to come to school, his avoidance of school areas  such as the playground, withdrawal from peers, unusual tearfulness or anxiety,  difficulty focusing in class, and a decline in grades.
• Take reports about bullying seriously and act quickly.

• send a message to other students  that bullying will not be tolerated.
• Coach students being teased on how to respond.
• how to be assertive without being  aggressive.
• The purpose should be to deter the bully's aggressive  behavior rather than to humiliate or embarrass him.
• Discipline students who bully.
• exclude  him from places or activities where he has harassed other students.
  
• meeting with the  bully's parents to inform them of his actions and gain their support for changing  his behavior.
• Contact the parents of the bully

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• fear and hopelessness
• many caregivers and bystanders don't act when they see a child getting  bullied on the playground or in their neighborhood.
• bullied as teenagers have  poorer self-esteem and higher levels of depression than other adults.
• "You need to stop complaining and work this out  together." You are punished for being a "tattletale." Most adults wouldn't put  up with this sort of treatment at work, yet victimized children are commonly  expected to confront their abusers on their own and with no way to defend  themselves.

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• the top of the social hierarchy
• play acting started to feel real.
• anonymity of the Internet changes things and encouraged them to act in ways they wouldn't in person.
• "Because you can't see the reaction to it and you can't see their facial expressions, or anything, and so, you're like basically talking to a computer screen,"
• some of the girls said they wouldn't know how to respond.
• "I think I would have just gone in my room and locked myself there,"
• The experiment was, perhaps, a wake-up call for these nice, successful girls that online bullying exchanges can be hurtful.
• "I didn't know I could be that mean," said Gwyneth. "I think I'd need to get help or something."

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