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Derek MooreWhy are our kids increasingly disengaged? Maybe adults are too busy on their screens & aren't looking at their kids? https://t.co/mPA4UXI3Ff
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bitovageek@KellyGToGo Yes! with this one as counter: https://t.co/ZZgIdsyaZs
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Amy Bogenschuetz@KellyGToGo Yes! with this one as counter: https://t.co/ZZgIdsyaZs
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Garry Goldenparents digital youth culture critique
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sam sherrattYes, Smartphones Are Destroying a Generation, But Not of Kids https://t.co/FkkXGFm5Pk
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My own research suggests that the best way we can do that is by embracing our role as digital mentors: actively encouraging our kids to use technology, but offering ongoing support and guidance in how to use it appropriately. I shared some highlights from that research in The Atlantic, actually (#irony), showing how kids who’ve been actively mentored by their parents actually have healthier relationships to technology than kids who’ve been set free in the wilds of the Internet, or conversely, had their online access tightly limited.
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Mentoring your kids means letting go of a one-size-fits-all approach to kids’ tech use, and thinking instead about which specific online activities are enriching (or impoverishing) for your specific child. Mentoring means talking regularly with your kids about how they can use the Internet responsibly and joyfully, instead of slamming on the brakes. Mentor parents recognize that their kids need digital skills if they’re going to thrive in a digital world, so they invest in tech classes and coding camps. And of course, mentor parents embrace technology in their own lives—but thoughtfully, so they can offer guidance on the human (if not the technical) aspects of life online.
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But that kind of nuanced approach is hard to embrace if you’re reeling from the unceasing warnings about how smartphones are “destroying” your kids. That’s why it’s time for us to stop paying attention to alarmist attacks on kids’ screen time—and instead pay attention to our kids.
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José PicardoYes, Smartphones Are Destroying a Generation, But Not of Kids https://t.co/WcUdhTRXlj
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Paulo MoekotteHmmm. From blaming #teens to blaming #parents. RT Yes, Smartphones Are Destroying a Generation, But Not of Kids https://t.co/wfyYBKjywq
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the twin rise of the smartphone and social media has caused an earthquake of a magnitude we’ve not seen in a very long time, if ever. There is compelling evidence that the devices we’ve placed in young people’s hands are having profound effects on their lives—and making them seriously unhappy.”
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Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?
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so what: what, exactly, are parents supposed to do about the problem?
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levels of happiness and unhappiness are largely constant,
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that “[a]ll screen activities are linked to less happiness, and all nonscreen activities are linked to more happiness
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data on how teens are having sex later and putting off getting their drivers’ licenses.
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Social media happened. But it didn’t happen just—or even mainly—to teens. It happened to parents.
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But you know what smartphones and social media are really great at? Tuning out your children.
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Fellow parents, it’s time for us to consider another possible explanation for why our kids are increasingly disengaged. It’s because we’ve disengaged ourselves; we’re too busy looking down at our screens to look up at our kids.
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the quality of engagement declined: parents were more abrupt, more critical and less stimulating
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Parents are, indeed, influenced by competing activity. They resort to a level of behavior that might be called “minimal parenting.
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Fostering independence takes work: someone has to teach the kid to drive, show them how to get to the mall, maybe prod them to make some friends and get outside.
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Kids who stay inside their semi-gilded cages, because they don’t get the support they need to spread their wings.
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s a fate I worry about with my own kids, who barely know what I look like without a device in my hands
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My entire experience of parenthood has been lived in the tug-of-war between child and screen; my kids can’t remember a time when they didn’t have to compete with my iPhone in order to get my attention.
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Teens who are too busy online to come out of their room. Kids who are social butterflies on the Internet, but socially awkward in meatspace. Young adults who may be remarkably adept in front of a computer, but lack some of the practical life skills they’ll need when they stop away from the keyboard
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embracing our role as digital mentors: actively encouraging our kids to use technology, but offering ongoing support and guidance in how to use it appropriately.
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Mentoring your kids means letting go of a one-size-fits-all approach to kids’ tech use, and thinking instead about which specific online activities are enriching (or impoverishing) for your specific child.
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Cathy HuntSome points to consider here, plus a granular look at the data from that alarmist article... thanks, @gravesle https://t.co/EYOOWOryFx
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David GoodrichQuickly, now: Go rip a smartphone out of the hands of the nearest teen. If you have a teen child of your own, you can start there—or if you have kids under 13, you can take away whatever device they’re presently using. via Pocket …
via PocketYes, Smartphones Are Destroying a Generation, But Not of Kids August 11, 2017 at 05:49AMYes Smartphones Are Destroying a Generation But Not of Kids IFTTT Pocket
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mtt ggllGot sent this piece about @TheAtlantic article that got me ranting almost a week ago. Will live tweet again... 1/n https://t.co/qfkGPs2aFX
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Nick Gall"But Twenge doesn’t just base her argument on happiness levels over time. She also argues that “[a]ll screen activities are linked to less happiness, and all nonscreen activities are linked to more happiness. Eighth-graders who spend 10 or more hours a week on social media are 56 percent more likely to say they’re unhappy than those who devote less time to social media.”
Yet look at the twelfth-grade data, and there’s no such effect. Teens report near identical levels of happiness regardless whether they’re on the higher or lower end of social media usage." -
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I’d love to tell you we used this shiny new tech to look up educational resources for our children, or play them classical music in utero. And sure, there was a bit of that. But you know what smartphones and social media are really great at? Tuning out your children.
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As a friend warned me when I first got pregnant, “children are simultaneously overwhelming and under-stimulating.” Why wouldn’t we want to be distracted from that?
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Zussman’s experiment suggests that when parents are distracted—as today’s parents are, perpetually, by our online lives—it’s the encouragement that suffers, more than the control. The result? Kids who stay inside their semi-gilded cages, because they don’t get the support they need to spread their wings.
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