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a truly inspiring vision of what life will be like
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everyone deserves such a life, not just a privileged few
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rosevibehttp://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/ can't believe I've not come across this blog before, may have to trawl the archives if I ever get the time
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I tried to plug myself into a system designed to mold me into a regular job-wielding citizen. But for some reason that system didn’t work for me. It kept spitting me out with an error message.
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But if you’re struggling to fit into a system that keeps spitting you back out again, perhaps your path of fulfillment is elsewhere.
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Your path of fulfillment is uniquely your own. You won’t get there by doing what’s expected of you. You can’t play by the rules you’ve been taught to follow. Those rules don’t work for you.
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it’s a heck of a lot easier to pay your bills when you’re happy and fulfilled. It’s a lot easier to generate abundant income when you feel good — and it’s a lot more intelligent that sacrificing your health due to stress and overwhelm. Making money and being happy are not in conflict, although the system often makes it hard to enjoy both at the same time.
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Stop asking “What should I do now?” That question only brings up what others expect of you. The shoulds are nothing but social programming.
Free people don’t have shoulds. They have choices.
Shoulds don’t create happiness and fulfillment, nor do they create prosperity. Shoulds are really good at creating stress though.
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ask yourself, “What kind of man/woman do I desire to become?” When you take the time to understand what this person is like, it’s easier to decide what to do.
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If you wish to be a person who’s free, creative, abundant, caring, honorable, and generous, then ask yourself which choices will move you in that direction. Can you see why a part of you would sabotage the cubicle job?
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desire freedom and flexibility
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avoid situations that trap, confine, or limit you. Choose a path that allows you to keep your options open.
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f you want to experience abundance, then don’t choose a path that ensures scarcity or limitation. Choose a path that has a shot of leading to prosperity.
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f you want to express your creativity, then
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Choose a path where creativity is rewarded, not punished.
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f you want to be more courageous, then don’t choose a “safe” path. Choose a path that will push you to stretch beyond your comfort zone. If the path won’t build your courage, it’s not your path.
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You won’t have clarity about your path until you resolve what kind of person you wish to be.
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On one side we have the easy path. On the other side we have the path of happiness, fulfillment, prosperity, and all the other yummy stuff you desire.
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you don’t totally commit yourself to the fulfilling path, you’ll find yourself on the easy path by default. The easy path is automatic. The fulfilling path can only be consciously chosen.
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o choose the fulfilling path, you have to be ready to leave behind the comfort of the safety-in-numbers path and embark on a journey that’s uniquely your own. You must be willing to visit places where there are no teachers, no mentors, no bosses, no parents to guide you, knowing that you’re perfectly capable of guiding yourself.
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he easy path is someone else’s path. It looks easy because it’s been done before. For the same reasons, it’s also incredibly boring. If you dislike boredom as much as I do, you’ll sabotage yourself each time you try to follow that path. You’ll realize just how pointless it is to spend your precious life doing what’s already been done.
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It’s a bit strange to accept on a deeper level that no matter what I do or don’t do, I’m always annoying some people while delighting others — and that it’s impossible to prevent that.
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Earl Nightingale
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I realized that within me are many seemingly conflicted interests… so many voices telling me where to go next. And in a way, all of those voices are valid. They’re all worthy of a yes.
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I can’t say yes to all of them at once. I can’t even hear them all at the same time and have it make any sense. However, I can pause and listen to each one and say yes one by one.
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can focus on one interest at a time and fully immerse myself in it. I can also share what I learn from these explorations since that helps me internalize and make sense of each discovery. Then I can come up for air, let it go, and take some time off to relax a bit and have a life.
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This doesn’t mean I have to say no to all the other voices. It simply means I must say, “Not yet.”
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Most of the waves of inspiration I’ve been catching in the past have been fairly small waves — an article, a series of articles, sometimes a 30-day trial. But some have been larger waves, like a book and a workshop.
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While I still enjoy the smaller waves, I want to spend more time this year riding bigger waves. But when I’m riding a big wave, I have to give it my full attention. I can’t distract myself with all the other potential waves to ride.
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Stretch Goals
For the sake of convenience, let’s use the term “stretch goals” to refer to the types of goals for which you aren’t already a good match.
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A goal is only easy or hard relative to your vibe.
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The more strongly your vibe matches a goal, the more easily and effortlessly you can achieve that goal.
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Your vibe largely determines which goals you’re even willing to set.
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When your vibe is somewhere in the middle, you have a stretch goal. Your vibe is enough of a match for the goal to enable you to set the goal and take it seriously, but not yet enough of a match to experience the achievement of the goal.
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One of the best reasons to set goals and work to achieve them is the vibrational shift you must undergo in order to achieve new goals, especially stretch goals.
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Stop Using Force
Now here’s the tricky part to understand, so please read this next bit carefully.
When your vibe is a good match for your goal, you’ll naturally have a sense of the right actions to take, and synchronicities will show up to guide you as needed. You won’t have to struggle to figure out what to do next. Most of the time, the next action to take will be fairly obvious, and it will feel good to you. It will be an action you want to take. You won’t have to force it.
However, when your vibe is a poor match for your goal, you’ll come up with some actions to take, but they’ll be the wrong actions. You won’t have a strong inner feeling of clarity about them. You’ll have a lot of doubts. It will be hard to choose a path, and even when you do choose, you won’t feel certain that it’s the right path for you. When you do take action, you’ll be acting under a cloud of doubt and uncertainty. You’ll also have a strong tendency to procrastinate and delay.
A common prescription for people in the second situation is to use force. Take more action. Fight procrastination. Push yourself harder. Eliminate distractions. Focus! Do it now! Get to work!
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This doesn’t work well. It’s like trying to push two opposing magnets together. Even if you do achieve a goal this way, it will be difficult to sustain it, and a fall is inevitable. Your vibe and the goal are constantly resisting each other. As soon as you let down your guard, they repel each other.
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It’s safe to say that if a goal seems like a big deal to you, this indicates that your vibe isn’t yet a match for that goal.
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Now if you still feel good about the goal and you still want the outcome, that’s perfectly fine too. Just because you aren’t a match for the goal doesn’t mean you should drop it. Some of the best goals will require you to shift your vibe in order to achieve them. It could be said that the vibrational shift is an even greater accomplishment than the external goal. For example, aligning your vibe with abundance can be a greater accomplishment than earning some specific sum of money. Once you’ve integrated the vibe of abundance, your whole life is transformed, not just your finances.
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Let’s assume for now that you have a goal that you like, but you aren’t yet a vibrational match for it. What’s the next step?
Well, many people would say that the next steps are to make plans and start taking action, but for a goal of this nature, that’s approach doesn’t work well. It will usually cause you to run in circles.
It’s like trying to push two opposing magnets together. You can push with great force, but that isn’t a wise idea. If you want the magnets to stick, then it’s easier if you flip one of the magnets around. If you do that first, then you can pretty much let go, and the magnets will attract each other. You may give them a nudge, but forcing them together isn’t necessary.
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Now this is a very simple analogy, so let’s expand it a bit. Your vibe is much more complex than a single magnet. Your vibe with respect to any single goal is like 100 pairs of magnets. Some magnets have their poles aligned to attract each other, but some are repelling each other. So when you try to achieve your goal by taking direct action, sometimes you’re in the flow, and sometimes you’re out of flow. Some parts of your vibe are pulling the goal towards you. Other parts of your vibe are pushing the goal away.
You don’t have to be in perfect 100% alignment to achieve your goal. You just have to make enough shifts such that the overwhelming force is attractive rather than repulsive. But it has to be strong enough to overcome inertia and any repelling forces.
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if you wish to become one with your goals, you’ll need to work with the various forces and motions that are present until a collision course with your goals becomes inevitable. This is essentially what it means to become a vibrational match for your goal. If you’re not a match, you’ll end up orbiting your goal instead of reaching it, despite having a lot of gravity on your side.
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The #1 reason people struggle to achieve their stretch goals is that they don’t have a solid understanding of the matching vibe.
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The most important thing you can do to achieve a stretch goal is to deepen and clarify your understanding of the matching vibe. What will your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors be like when you’ve already achieved the goal? What kind of person will you be when you’re already there?
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Most people don’t do what it takes to understand the new vibe. They project their old vibes forward in time, but that doesn’t work. It only keeps them orbiting the same goal, running in circles for years.
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You must figure out which of your 100 internal magnets are aligned with the new goal’s magnets, and which aren’t aligned. When you dive into action without this understanding, the odds of success are very low.
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There are many ways to deepen your understanding of the new vibe that pairs with your goal. Here are some suggestions.
First, be humble as you enter this process. Admit that you don’t yet understand the new vibe.
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Try to set aside any preconceived notions about the new vibe. Start with a blank slate. Open your mind to new possibilities. Don’t pretend to know something you haven’t yet experienced. If you aren’t already living it, it’s safe to say that you don’t know it yet.
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It may help to think about a goal you’ve already achieved.
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This leads us into the next step. If possible, identify people who’ve already achieved the goal you want to achieve (or something similar). Buy their books, and read them for starters. Join clubs where these people are members. Do whatever it takes to get face time with such people. Don’t admire such people from a distance. You need to connect with them in person, and preferably one on one. This means not over the phone and not over the Internet. In person means in person. This is easier than it sounds if you make it a priority. When you hang out with such people in person, you’ll learn so much about the new vibe you wish to create. Some inner shifts will happen automatically. This is very important. Don’t blow it off unless you prefer to orbit your goals instead of experience them.
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So if you want to be a millionaire, go to places where millionaires hang out, and spend time getting to know them. Talk to them about money. Don’t worry about getting how-to tips. You won’t be able to apply them yet anyway. Instead, get a sense of the other person’s thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about money. Contrast their vibe with yours. What’s different about their vibe? Why is it that they’re a match for having lots of money, and you aren’t? The vibrational differences tell the story.
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If you’re shy or socially dorky, go to a park or coffee shop in a wealthy neighborhood. Sit down, shut up, and observe. Listen to people’s conversations. Do this again and again until you start getting a clear sense of the vibe of such people. Contrast their vibe with yours. What’s different about them? Are you willing to embrace this vibe?
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Notice that such people don’t usually say, “Holy frak! I can’t believe I have all this money! It’s so unreal!” Having lots of money is just normal and routine for them. It’s no big deal. That’s the vibe you want to understand. If you think having a lot of money is a big deal, that’s why you don’t have it. That’s the vibe of wanting money and not having it. The vibe of having money is totally different.
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Next, spend time visualizing yourself as already having the vibe needed to achieve your goal. You’ll learn about this vibe partly from being around people who’ve already achieved your goal. Visualization can help you personalize the vibe. Other people will give you clues with respect to where you need to make shifts, but your vibe is uniquely your own. Your wealth vibe, for instance, won’t be quite the same as someone else’s. However, you’ll still have a lot in common with other wealthy people when you make the shifts that work for you.
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I recommend spending about 10 minutes per day visualizing how your life will be different once you’ve achieved your goal. How will you really think, feel, and behave on the other side of that goal? Try to make as few adjustments as possible to your current vibe, just enough to realistically see yourself in that situation and having it feel normal to you. This is important. Realize that if you’re going to achieve this goal in reality, then it’s still you on the other side, with all your dorkiness coming along for the ride. It’s not your higher self or your ideal self. It’s just a slightly adjusted version of your normal, everyday self.
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Try doing it like this. Imagine a scene that represents your goal. Now put your current self into that scene. This is the person you are right now, your normal self. Imagine yourself going through that scene as if it were completely real and happening right now. You just quantum leaped right into it. Do your best to imagine this not as a dream or fantasy, but as solid reality, like a real event that’s happening today, perhaps a few hours from now.
Now let your character interact with the scene. How would you realistically react to what’s happening? What you want to understand is your character’s vibrational interaction with the vibe of the scene. This will tell you where some of your magnets are pointing in the wrong directions. The more realistic you can make this scene, the more you’ll learn from it.
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Daydreaming isn’t the same thing as visualizing. You can visualize yourself being in a sex scene for the purpose of taking care of yourself, but that isn’t the same thing as visualizing a sex scene that you actually want to experience in reality. Your mind can tell the difference between a fantasy visualization and a serious goal. Otherwise you’d manifest lots of sex just by imagining it. You can imagine anything you want, but it won’t become real until you match the vibe of that experience too, and that part takes a bit more work.
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Sometimes it’s the extended consequences of the goal, rather than the goal itself, that reveal a lack of alignment. For example, if you want to be a famous actor, what do you think about being in the public eye? Can you handle public criticism from people who don’t know you? Can you accept that as being a normal part of your life, or does that seem like something you’d want to avoid? If you want to achieve a goal, you must accept the logical consequences of that goal. If you resist the consequences, you resist the goal.
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Now ask your mind to show you what vibrational adjustments you need to make to be congruent with your goal. Imagine that your character is downloading a new personality subroutine. Let your adjusted self interact with the scene anew. Allow your mind to keep making tweaks until your character seems to be a comfortable, natural fit for the scene. Get a sense of your character’s new vibe. What’s different about it? What had to be changed?
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take some notes that you can refer to later.
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- You’ll shed limiting beliefs and perspectives that align with the old vibe, replacing them with new truths that align with the new vibe.
- You’ll shed negative relationships that are bad match for your new vibe, and you’ll add positive new relationships that are well aligned with it.
- You’ll stop feeding your power to excuses and obstacles, and you’ll begin emitting a more powerful vibe that draws your goal increasingly near.
Turning Repulsion Into Attraction
This process will help you create a vibrational to-do list. This is even more important than your action list. Once you take steps to adjust your vibe to be in harmony with your goal, the action steps will begin to flow rather easily.
What’s a vibrational to-do list? It’s a list of the personal development work you need to do in order to become a match for your goal.
Ultimately it will include three types of growth experiences:
These personal growth experiences are the inner magnets that you must re-align. Let’s consider each category in turn.
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Suppose your goal is to earn $1M per year. That’s about $80K per month. If you currently earn $50K per year, then this may seem like a very large sum. But if you were a match for this goal, then $80K per month must look and feel like a normal sum to you. It’s just your regular paycheck. There’s nothing special about it. If you’re going to turn it into a big deal, then you’re pushing this goal away.
So your new truth might be, “Earning $80K per month is normal. It’s easy and natural for me.”
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To help you align with this goal, you might go to your bank, withdraw $1000 cash, and carry it around in your wallet every day. That may feel uncomfortable at first, but keep doing it till it feels normal and natural to you. How does it feel to carry two hours’ worth of pay in your wallet? It’s no big deal. Embrace your new truth, and it will help you create a more abundant vibe. If you want to earn 20x more money, then you need to change your relationships to money by a factor of 20. A $1000 sum in your new vibe is equivalent to a $50 bill in your old vibe.
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New Connections
Suppose your goal (once again) is to go from earning $50K to $1M per year. When you imagine yourself as already there, it becomes clear that some of your current friends won’t be able to handle it. So part of your inner work will be to either (1) drop these people from your life, so they stop blocking you, or (2) have some deep conversations to transform these relationships, so these people can get behind your goal.
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Build new relationships too. What kinds of people would you have in your life if you already achieved your goal? Start building those relationships now. They’ll actually help you get there. Don’t do the “I’m not worthy” thing. If you’re going to make this goal a reality, then you’re going to have to overcome those feelings of unworthiness. You might as well start now.
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Don’t cling to relationships that aren’t a good match for your goal. This is an area where you may really have to do some house-cleaning.
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Clinginess isn’t a vibrational match for growth.
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Embracing Your Power
The third area for personal development work is to notice where you’re giving your power away, and begin to reclaim your power.
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The deeper inner work is to ask, Why am I with a partner who doesn’t naturally want the same things I do? Why am I settling for less than I desire? Why am I being so clingy with someone who wants different experiences than I do?
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Achieving stretch goals requires fixing the magnets that aren’t turned the right way. This includes dropping limiting beliefs and false assumptions, dumping disempowering relationships, and letting go of excuses and blame. If you avoid this inner growth work and try to jump ahead to cause-and-effect action steps, you’ll simply orbit your goal.
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Do the Personal Growth Work
Once you’ve identified the personal growth work you must go through in order to become a match for your goal, then get busy working on it. If you’re conscious about it, you can compress lessons that would otherwise take years into a few months or weeks, creating big shifts in a short period of time.
There are tons of methods you can use to do this personal growth work. This website is filled with them. Here are some examples:
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Journal to gain new insights (contrast the old vibe with the new one).
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Have deep conversations with people who are intelligent and aware
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Meditate on feelings of gratitude and appreciation.
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Keep visualizing yourself as already there; feel it as real.
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- Disconnect from people who aren’t a match for your goal.
- Join a club that will help you align your vibe with your goal.
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Replace the books on your bookshelf with books that match the new vibe.
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Donate possessions that aren’t a good match for the new vibe.
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Catch yourself giving your power away, and reclaim it by directing it back towards your desires.
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Create new empowering belief statements to replace old limiting beliefs.
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Hang out regularly with people who can naturally help you align with your goal (i.e. people who inspire you in that direction).
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Intend and expect to reach your goal.
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Use the word “when” instead of “if” when talking about your goal.
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Blog about your goal or talk about it publicly (this will reveal mismatching relationships and help attract compatible connections too).
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Conduct experiments like 30-day trials to immerse yourself in the experience of a new vibe.
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Change your diet, clothes, etc. to eat, dress, and live as if you’re already there.
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Put up pictures or other inspirational messages that represent the new vibe.
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Read books written by others who emit a vibe that’s compatible with your goal.
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Go to lectures, workshops, seminars, and retreats that will help immerse you in the new vibe.
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Forgive people who’ve wronged you, and release the hurt and resentment.
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Use your favorite three-letter acronym process. Get therapy. Poke yourself with your finger a few times. Go to Sedona and consult with the vortex aliens. Whatever. The specific process doesn’t matter. What works best for me may not work at all for you, and vice versa. The important thing is that the processes you use are helping you become a match for your goal. Don’t stick with a process that isn’t giving you results.
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Now here’s the rub. The personal growth work will not be easy. It may be very challenging. But this is the area where you’ll make the fastest progress when working towards goals that you aren’t already a good match for experiencing. Once you resolve the alignment issues, the goal almost takes care of itself. You won’t have to worry so much about problems like procrastination and self-sabotage.
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One thing that’s become very clear is that when people succeed, they tend to get there by taking actions that are easy and natural for them. Force doesn’t work well.
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Force can sometimes get you to a goal, but the form of the goal will be a bit off from what you wanted, and it will be hard to hold onto it. When you achieve a stretch goal using this vibrational alignment process, however, it’s easier to hang onto it afterwards — and to further build upon it. And you’ll enjoy the process of getting there so much more.
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This is a very personal process, however. You have to keep coming back to what works for you. You have to stop projecting false imaginings onto other people, especially people you’ve never met. That’s delusional thinking that will only push your goal further away.
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Go back to basics and re-learn the right vibe from scratch. Admit that you don’t really understand the true vibe of what it’s like to be an actual millionaire in the real world. I have many millionaire friends, and none are anything like the way I’ve seen wealthy people portrayed in fictional books, TV shows, or movies.
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If I haven’t met you in person, then I don’t claim to know you at all.
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One of the reasons it’s so important to favor in-person communication (especially when you want to understand a new vibe) is that your skin cells are covered with tiny antennae that pick up electro-magnetic fields emitting by other people (such as their heart waves and brain waves). Every human being is like a walking transmitter and receiver. This aspect of our biology, however, is essentially a local phenomenon. It drops off massively if you’re more than a meter or two away from someone. Even watching someone from a stage is too far. You really want to be no farther than the distance of sharing a meal together. That’s when you’ll learn the most about someone else’s vibe. Of course you’ll learn even more about someone’s vibe if you sleep with them, but you don’t have to take things that far.
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You’re better off finding someone local who can serve as a role model, someone you can hang out with in person, if only for a short time. If you use primarily Internet-based role models, you’re probably going to spend a lot of time running in circles instead of achieving your goals because it will be very hard for you to lock onto the right vibe. You’ll merely be creating a false projection that doesn’t much resemble the real vibe that matches the goal.
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- Define your outcome.
- Develop a deeper understanding of the new vibe that matches the goal (get face time with people who’ve achieved it, visualize yourself as already there).
- Contrast your current vibe with the new vibe to see where you’re out of alignment (use contrasting visualizations, broadcast your desires).
- Identify the personal growth work necessary to adjust your vibe (new truths, new connections, smarter application of your power).
- Use your favorite processes to do the personal growth work until you achieve enough alignment to experience the flow of inspired action.
- Allow the flow of inspired action (not force) to guide you to your goal.
- Enjoy the harmonious manifestation of your goal.
The Process in Review
Here’s what our overall process looks like step by step:
It’s a simple process in essence, and it works amazingly well.
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No goal is out of reach with this process. But what if you can’t find any role models for a particular goal?
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Then you’ll have to rely more heavily on visualization. This may require more experimentation to find the right vibe. It’s one reason that new goals that have never been accomplished before by anyone usually take longer to achieve. It takes a while to figure out the right vibe that aligns with the goal.
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Some fun areas for vibrational “play” involve exploring spaces with stretch goals that no one has ever achieved before. Can you figure out the vibe that aligns with the goal? Can you do the personal growth work to become a match for that vibe? Or will you stick to the vibes that represent a “been there, done that” experience for someone else?
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What about the action steps? When your vibe becomes a strong match for your goal, you don’t even have to think about the action steps. That would be like telling you how to make dinner. There are countless resources to inform you about the action steps to take. When your vibe is a match for your goal, those action-step resources will tend to effortlessly flow to you. If it seems like the action steps are unknown or a struggle, then you need to do more work on aligning your vibe with your goal.
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Stephen BleakleyCheap items are cheap for a reason. Quality has been sacrificed to lower the costs, and creative packaging makes it look more valuable than it really is. For example, if you buy regular white vinegar off the shelf in a grocery store (the cheapest vinegar
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Shrutarshi BasuA must read if you want to turn your life around
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creative self-expression
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creative self-expression (which I believe is the core essence behind building substantial traffic
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the core essence behind building substantial traffic
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it’s easier to get what I want by going for it directly instead of using money as an intermediary. I found a way to be free, to do what I love, and to help people.
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You just can’t fit in the old box anymore.
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I really like helping people, but there are certain problems that come with being the guy on the stage. It’s very easy for the audience to disconnect from you because they assume you’re too perfect. Just being able to speak in front of an audience is a huge fear for a lot of people. So I intentionally told some of my worst failure stories, including the time I was arrested for grand theft as a teenager. I wanted people to understand the difference between growth and perfection. No one can be perfect, but everyone can grow. Several people told me afterwards that they really appreciated those stories because it helped them see that they could improve their lives as well. As we finally wrapped up, I was happy but also very tired/spent.
My favorite kind of feedback to hear after a speech is something along the lines of, “You just helped me solve a big problem I’ve been having.” As a speaker you can inspire the heck out of people, but if you don’t help people solve their real-world problems, there won’t be much long-term impact beyond the entertainment value.
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John was just outstanding at the way he managed to keep the interest of both the audience and the person he was reading for. Often when people do mediumship readings, it’s easy to lose the audience because you get tied up with the person you’re reading for. But John kept mixing in humor and explanation for the audience even while he did the individual readings. Most people probably didn’t realize how masterful that was.
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When I told Darren that my book wasn’t available for sale after my workshop because the release date was still 3-1/2 months away, he said, “Yeah… but you handed all the attendees pre-ordering forms and then collected them after the workshop, right?”
Doh!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Superfoods
This month I’ve been experimenting with a class of foods called superfoods. These are nutritionally dense items such as wild blueberries, spirulina, raw cacao (the beans chocolate is made from), goji berries (from the Himalayas), and maca (a radish-like root vegetable from the Andes). Whether or not superfoods are a wise idea seems to be controversial in the raw community. Some people swear by them. Others say they’re pointless or even unhealthy (depending on the particular food).
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After reading various juicer reviews, I settled on a Green Power juicer
($479 at Amazon). This juicer comparison page was very helpful in deciding which model to buy.
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T Benone of the best self dev blogs on the web! the guy is cultivated and experienced .. listen to him!
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you must prioritize your projects to make sure you’re working on what’s truly important instead of getting caught up in minor things
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Objective
For prioritization to have any meaning, it’s imperative that you have a clear objective.
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Your personal objective may be a set of goals, your mission statement or purpose, or even a state of being. The role of prioritization then is to help you achieve this result with as little effort as possible
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Resources
The second consideration is the resources you have available. Military resources include troops, guns, tanks, bombs, planes, fuel, supplies, etc. Your personal resources include time, money, your social network, your physical energy, and so on.
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Now in order to prioritize intelligently, we need a method that tells us how to evaluate projects in terms of their overall importance.
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CARVER is an acronym for a military method of target selection. CARVER stands for Criticality, Accessibility, Return (or Recuperability), Vulnerability, Effect, and Recognizability.
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For every potential target, we assign a value of 1 (lowest) to 5 (highest) for each CARVER factor, thereby creating a CARVER matrix. Then by summing the six CARVER values, we can calculate a total score for each target, and those scores represent the targets’ relative prioritization.
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Criticality. How critical is the target with respect to the main objective? Will it move you significantly closer to your goal, or is it a relatively puny and insignificant item?
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essibility. Can you actually reach the target, or is it so well defended that attacking it directly is impossible? Do you have the means to tackle this project immediately, or does it have prerequisites?
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Return.
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How great is the expected return on your commitment of resources?
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Vulnerability. How vulnerable is the target? What amount of resources will be required to take it out?
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Effect
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If you successfully complete your project, what effect will it have on your life as well as the lives of others?
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Recognizability
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Is your project crystal clear or totally fuzzy? How easy is it to recognize the steps necessary to complete the project?
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Now let’s see how we can create a CARVER matrix to prioritize certain projects. The 1-5 rankings for each factor are simply for the sake of example,
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Criticality Accessibility Return Vulnerability Effect Recognizability Total Write a book 5 3 3 1 5 3 20 Start a blog 2 5 2 5 4 4 22 Run a marathon 2 4 3 1 4 5 19 Make new friends 4 2 5 3 3 1 18 The numbers tell the story. According to our CARVER matrix, the most important project to tackle next is to start a blog.
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ee to adapt the basic concept of CARVER to your specific needs. You can assign extra weight to certain factors as well as introduce additional factors like enjoyment or financial payoff.
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By using a simple system like CARVER, you’ll know which projects are important enough to deserve your attention and which are, relatively speaking, a waste of your time and energy. You’ll benefit from greater consistency in decision-making and better results for your efforts.
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CARVER does a fairly decent job of spitting out an intelligent prioritization of projects. It’s really good at depicting which projects are worth the effort and which aren’t.
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