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02 Dec 15
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Now certainly our son was not the first boy in history to be bullied and have his heart crushed by rejection. But when I discovered a folder filled with IM exchanges throughout the summer and further interviewed his classmates, I realized that technology was being utilized as weapons far more effective and reaching then the simple ones we had as kids.
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Passing handwritten notes or a "slam" book has since been replaced with on-line tools such as IM, websites, blogs, social media, anonymous posting applications, smart phones, etc. The list keeps growing with the invention of every new gadget and application.
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But it has to be a totally different experience then a generation ago when these hurts and humiliation are now witnessed by a far larger, online adolescent audience.
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I believe my son would have survived these incidents of bullying and humiliation if they took place before computers and the internet. But I believe there are few of us who would have had the resiliency and stamina to sustain such a nuclear level attack on our feelings and reputation as a young teen in the midst of rapid physical, social and emotional changes. I believe bullying through technology has the effect of accelerating and amplifying the hurt to levels that will probably result in a rise in teen suicide rates. Recent statistics indicate that indeed teen suicide is on the rise again after many years of declining rates.
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I believe bullying through technology has the effect of accelerating and amplifying the hurt to levels that will probably result in a rise in teen suicide rates.
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Tragically, teenage depression often goes camouflaged against the backdrop of typical teen angst. And since most of us have never received basic education in the signs and prevention of teenage suicide at any point in our lives, young people suffering from depression are at even greater risk.
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Like so many parents of our generation, we thought this would just be a phase, a part of growing up. But accountability and responsibility should be shared by others too - bullies, bystanders and their parents along with school administration and staff. Prevention through education should have always been a part of the curriculum. And it should have started at pre-K.
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A sweet, gentle and lanky thirteen year old fumbling his way through early adolescence and trying to establish his place in the often confusing and difficult social world of middle school. After that day my son would be gone forever, a death by suicide. Some would call it bullycide or even cyber bullycide.
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October 7, 2003
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He had the magic ability to bring a smile to anyone that looked his way.
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warmth and friendliness
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Ryan received special education services from pre-school through the fourth grade
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academically
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He was hard on himself, no matter how much we tried to lessen the academic pressure and focus his awareness of his other strengths.
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social intelligence- that his very warm, sweet, caring and sensitive personality would take him far in life because people liked being with him.
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fifth grade that we first began to encounter the bullying problem.
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academic weaknesses and his poor physical coordination.
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By the end of fifth grade he seemed fine and so, based on the therapist’s advice, we stopped the sessions.
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Instead Ryan asked that we help him learn how to fight so he can “beat the heck" out of this kid if he or his 8th grade friends tried to jump Ryan.
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His answer was always the same … that since that fight, the bully had left him alone
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He said he was now friends with the kid. We were not happy with this news. We warned him to watch his back since this kid was his nemesis for so long.
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ended the so called friendship right from the start.
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- No IMing/chatting with strangers
- No giving any personal information (name/address/phone) to strangers
- No sending pictures to strangers
- No secret passwords
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password I gave them for any accounts they signed up
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Never in a million years did I imagine this rule would someday end up becoming the key to unlocking the mystery of why my son took his own life.
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several of his classmates told me of the bullying and cyber bullying that took place during the months that led up to his suicide
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since 5 th grade and briefly befriended Ryan after the brawl was the main culprit
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embarrassing and funny that happened once and the friend (bully) ran with the new information that Ryan had something done to him and therefore Ryan must be gay.
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pretty “popular” girl from his school on-line and worked on establishing a relationship with her; I’m sure as a surefire way to squash the “gay” rumor before everyone returned to school in the fall.
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He found out that her friends and her thought it would be funny to make him think she liked him and to get him to say a lot of personal, embarrassing stuff
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technology was being utilized as weapons far more effective and reaching then the simple ones we had as kids.
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I believe my son would have survived these incidents of bullying and humiliation if they took place before computers and the internet.
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depression
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And since most of us have never received basic education in the signs and prevention of teenage suicide at any point in our lives, young people suffering from depression are at greater risk.
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As parents, we failed to hold the school accountable to maintain an emotionally safe environment for our son while he was alive.
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12 Nov 12
Mrs. Melissa HallmanA site dedicated to Ryan to prevent future bullying.
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31 Oct 12
Hannah LinkRyan was bullied out of school, but after the bullying started happening online (on IM) he ended up committing suicide at the age of 13.
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Grace BrownThis is about a boy named ryan who was bullied and then commited suicide.
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kamika finkleycyberbullying story
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Jack SironenThis is a tragic description of a bully story that ended in the loss of a human life.
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my son would be gone forever, a death by suicide. Some would call it bullycide or even cyber bullycide.
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But there were early concerns with Ryan’s speech, language and motor skills development as he neared kindergarten. Ryan received special education services from pre-school through the fourth grade. We will always be grateful for the entire staff at Hiawatha Elementary School in Essex Junction for being so wonderful and caring for our son. The special education team there fell in love with him and his drive to do his best every day. By the time he reached the fifth grade, he was assessed to be on grade and no longer needing special education services. But as he became older, he also became more aware that he was not as academically strong as most of his classmates. This began to bother him deeply as he headed into middle school. He had to work much harder at homework, re-reading assignments several times to comprehend the material. He was hard on himself, no matter how much we tried to lessen the academic pressure and focus his awareness of his other strengths.
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we bought Ryan the “Taebo” kick boxing training kit for Christmas that year. All through the month of January and into February, Ryan and I got down to business. After dinner every evening we did this exercise program together. These are some of my favorite memories of time spent with Ryan. We talked about a lot of things during these workouts including strategies in dealing with the bully and his friends. I was quite proud of him, seeing his self confidence build. It truly felt like the "Karate Kid" movie, getting him ready for the big match. But I reminded Ryan that he was never to start a fight with this kid, but he certainly had my permission to “whale on him” the moment he laid a hand on Ryan.
Sure enough, we got a call from the assistant principal after a school day in February 2003. He just broke up a fight between Ryan and the bully at the nearby Maple Street Park in our village. He said Ryan was ok but wanted us to be aware. We were very grateful for his intervention. When we found Ryan walking home, he was both scared and elated. He was shaking but said he got a few good punches in and felt good he was able to stick up to the bully. He said, “I got a few good punches in before Mr. Emory got there. That kid probably won’t mess with me anymore.” We were all feeling pretty relieved that day for Ryan; for being able to stand his ground and seemingly make it through a typical teenage rite of passage.
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jacob murrayryan halligan
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Joy FullerStory to tell
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Julie McDaniel-Muldoon"This site is dedicated to the memory of our son Ryan and for all young people suffering in silence from the pain of bullying and having thoughts of suicide. We hope students become less ashamed to ask for help when feeling suicidal. We hope adults gain knowledge from our tragedy. As a society, we need to find better ways to help our children through their most difficult growing
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This site is dedicated to the memory of our son Ryan and for all young people suffering in silence from the pain of bullying and having thoughts of suicide. We hope students become less ashamed to ask for help when feeling suicidal. We hope adults gain knowledge from our tragedy. As a society, we need to find better ways to help our children through their most difficult growing years.
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If We Only Knew, If He Only Told Us
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ut there were early concerns with Ryan’s speech, language and motor skills development as he neared kindergarten
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his strength was social intelligence- that his very warm, sweet, caring and sensitive personality would take him far in life because people liked being with him
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fifth grade that we first began to encounter the bullying problem. A certain kid and his friends picked up on Ryan’s academic weaknesses and his poor physical coordination. But since he was not being physically bullied by these boys, only by words, we advised him to just ignore them, walk away and remember that he had good friends to count on.
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he bullying problem resurfaced on and off during his first middle school year
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he bullying problem surfaced again to a significant level. There was an evening that month when he just had a melt down … a very tearful session at the kitchen table.
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- No IMing/chatting with strangers
- No giving any personal information (name/address/phone) to strangers
- No sending pictures to strangers
- No secret passwords
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lassmates told me of the bullying and cyber bullying that took place during the months that led up to his suicide.
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friend (bully) ran with the new information that Ryan had something done to him and therefore Ryan must be gay
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“gay” rumor before everyone returned to school in the fal
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she liked him and to get him to say a lot of personal, embarrassing stuff. She copied and pasted there private IM exchanges into ones with her friends. They all had a good laugh at Ryan’s expense.
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Sandy StoneFather's presentation about the loss of his son who had been bullied.
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Steve Kelly"so easy to hide behind a screen." - John Halligan, re: Ashley @ age 13, one of the girls that bullied his son.
"Surviving middle school"
"don't ever forget the fragility of adolescence"cyberbullying cybersafety bullying internetsafety story cyberbully internet_safety safety halligan john
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kevin siegelJohn and Kelly Halligan lost their thirteen year old son, Ryan, to suicide on October 7, 2003. At the time of his death, Ryan was a student at a middle school in Essex Junction, Vermont. It was revealed in much greater detail after Ryan’s death that he was ridiculed and humiliated by peers at school and on-line.
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leslie paco" * Home
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This site is dedicated to the memory of our son Ryan and for all young people suffering in silence from the pain of bullying and having thoughts of suicide. We hope students become less ashamed to ask for help when feeling suicidal. We hope adults gain knowledge from our tragedy. As a society, we need to find better ways to help our children through their most difficult growing years.
If We Only Knew, If He Only Told Us
October 7, 2003 will always be the day that divides my life. Before that day my son Ryan was alive. A sweet, gentle and lanky thirteen year old fumbling his way through early adolescence and trying to establish his place in the often confusing and difficult social world of middle school. After that day my son would be gone forever, a death by suicide. Some would call it bullycide or even cyber bullycide. I just call it a huge hole in my heart that will never heal.
Our son Ryan was a sweet, gentle and very sensitive soul. He was born in Poughkeepsie , NY just a week before Christmas. That Christmas, Ryan was the best present of all. As he grew, his affectionate way made it irresistible to hug him and feel him hug you back. He had the magic ability to bring a smile to anyone that looked his way. As he grew, he developed a wonderful sense of humor too. And when we moved into new neighborhoods twice during his life, kids quickly gravitated to his warmth and friendliness.
But there were early concerns with Ryan’s speech, language and motor skills development as he neared kindergarten. Ryan received special education services from pre-school through the fourth grade. We will always be grateful for the entire staff at Hiawatha Elementary School in Essex Junction for being so wonderful and caring for our son. The special education team there fell in love with him and his drive to do his best every day. By the time he reached the fifth grade, he was ass-
“This plan worked perfectly!”
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Angela ZRyan's parent wrote a story about how Ryan suffered and if only Ryan told them.
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Ryan's story
In memory of Ryan Patrick Halligan 1989 - 2003
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If We Only Knew, If He Only Told Us
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Before that day my son Ryan was alive.
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a death by
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I just call it a huge hole in my heart that will never heal.
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Ryan was suffering from depression. This is a form of mental illness that is brought on by biological and/or environmental factors. In Ryan's case, I feel it was the "pile on effect" of the environmental issues mentioned above that stemmed from his middle school life. Tragically, teenage depression often goes undetected against the backdrop of typical teen angst. And since most of us have never received basic education in the signs and prevention of teenage suicide at any point in our lives, young people suffering from depression are at greater risk.
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Hayley Zimmermanthis is the saddest story ever
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This site is dedicated to the memory of our son Ryan and for all young people suffering in silence from the pain of bullying and having thoughts of suicide. We hope students become less ashamed to ask for help when feeling suicidal. We hope adults gain knowledge from our tragedy. As a society, we need to find better ways to help our children through their most difficult growing years.
If We Only Knew, If He Only Told Us
October 7, 2003 will always be the day that divides my life. Before that day my son Ryan was alive. A sweet, gentle and lanky thirteen year old fumbling his way through early adolescence and trying to establish his place in the often confusing and difficult social world of middle school. After that day my son would be gone forever, a death by suicide. Some would call it bullycide or even cyber bullycide. I just call it a huge hole in my heart that will never heal.
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Julia Hengstlertotally different experience then a generation ago when these hurts and humiliation are now witnessed by a far larger, online adolescent audience.
cyberbullying bullying internetsafety cybersafety internet_safety safety internet psychology suicide Vermont US Ryan Halligan
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Noelle Kreidervictim of cyberbullying who committed suicide
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Christina DiMicelliThis site is dedicated to the memory of our son Ryan and for all young people suffering in silence from the pain of bullying and having thoughts of suicide. We hope young people become less ashamed to ask for help when feeling suicidal. We hope adults ga
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Jennifer AdamsThis site is dedicated to the memory of our son Ryan and for all young people suffering in silence from the pain of bullying and having thoughts of suicide. We hope young people become less ashamed to ask for help when feeling suicidal. We hope adults gain knowledge from our tragedy. As a society, we need to find better ways to help our young people through their most difficult growing years.
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