Clay Burell on 2009-02-15
This poses an interesting question for me. I'm almost 100% solitary in my physical life. I live in Korea, don't speak the language, and spend little to no time in any sort of deep communication with my wife since her mother's death last year (and for the three years before our marriage last year, I was similarly asocial - physically).
So I literally go most weeks without having a meaningful conversation with anybody.
YET - I'm in touch with people, I have a society. It's just virtual. And I know how weird this will sound, but I feel no "pain of aloneness."
Then again, maybe it's because I write, and talk to readers. But I feel pretty damn good to be just about as alone as you can be at age 46.
Who was it - Santayana? - who said the word "loneliness" describes the _pain_ of being alone, while the word "solitude" describes the _bliss_ of it?
I'm solitary, but not lonely.
And to circle back around, I wonder how much of that is due to my "virtual community." So many of them are just tweets or comments with names. But a good number, I guess, are more - I know their minds from their blogs, their voices from their podcasts.
Weird. But all good.
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So I literally go most weeks without having a meaningful conversation with anybody.
YET - I'm in touch with people, I have a society. It's just virtual. And I know how weird this will sound, but I feel no "pain of aloneness."
Then again, maybe it's because I write, and talk to readers. But I feel pretty damn good to be just about as alone as you can be at age 46.
Who was it - Santayana? - who said the word "loneliness" describes the _pain_ of being alone, while the word "solitude" describes the _bliss_ of it?
I'm solitary, but not lonely.
And to circle back around, I wonder how much of that is due to my "virtual community." So many of them are just tweets or comments with names. But a good number, I guess, are more - I know their minds from their blogs, their voices from their podcasts.
Weird. But all good.
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