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The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often
used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful
for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations
where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a
victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.
Warning: Sometimes Ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge,
you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.
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• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm
and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own
body the liar takes up less space.
• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.
• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or
scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely
to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are
off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it
would naturally, then stops suddenly.
• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words.
Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift,
and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same
time the statement is made.
• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement,
such as frowning when saying “I love you.”
• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is
faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole
face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is
involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.
• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often
go on the offensive.
• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and
may turn his head or body away.
• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup,
etc.) between themselves and you.
• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When
asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers,
“No, I did not eat the last cookie.”
•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be
truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I
did not do it”
• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct
statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.
• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary
details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or
pauses in the conversation.
• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone.
When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much
or more than the rest of the words in a statement.
• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar
may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a
conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more
relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may
be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to
the previous subject.
• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.
Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs
does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to
a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible.
• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand
movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes
up less space.
• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.
• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the
nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart
with an open hand.
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal
pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then
stops suddenly.
• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example:
Someone says "I love
it!" when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather
then at the same time the statement is made.
• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning
when saying “I
love
you.”
• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions
(like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when
someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes
and forehead push down, etc.
• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the
offensive.
• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head
or body away.
• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee
cup,
etc.) between themselves and you.
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• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you
eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”
•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be
truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”
• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply
answers instead of denying something directly.
• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details
to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence
or pauses in the conversation.
• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak
in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is
emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.
• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off.
In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than
emphasized.
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation
quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty
wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden
change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.
• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.
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Introduction to Detecting Lies:
The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations